1 00:00:01,110 --> 00:00:04,190 [instrumental music] 2 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:19,210 [instrumental music] 3 00:00:32,810 --> 00:00:35,890 [instrumental music] 4 00:01:19,020 --> 00:01:20,770 [woman] Alice. 5 00:01:24,020 --> 00:01:25,520 Alice? 6 00:01:27,780 --> 00:01:31,660 Look at this mess. Oh, look at my kitchen. 7 00:01:31,780 --> 00:01:33,820 Sweetheart, what are you doing? 8 00:01:33,950 --> 00:01:37,080 Oh, you're always making messes. 9 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:38,790 Let me see your hands. 10 00:01:38,910 --> 00:01:41,670 Okay, go wash up. Stay in your room. 11 00:01:41,790 --> 00:01:44,630 You make a mess out of everything you touch. 12 00:01:50,050 --> 00:01:51,550 Charlie, say somethin'. 13 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:56,850 I thought we were safe. 14 00:01:56,970 --> 00:01:59,930 You know, you, you-you had protection. 15 00:02:00,060 --> 00:02:02,900 When did this happen? How far along are you? 16 00:02:04,900 --> 00:02:06,400 Twelve weeks? I don't know. 17 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:09,360 -Twelve or thirteen. -Oh. 18 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:11,780 Which means I'm having this baby in December. 19 00:02:11,900 --> 00:02:14,570 [chuckles] Well, I'm gonna be going into my spring semester 20 00:02:14,700 --> 00:02:16,950 with a baby. 21 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,910 [whispers] Charlie, I'm 20. I don't know how to be a mom. 22 00:02:22,710 --> 00:02:25,830 Do you even wanna think about options? 23 00:02:29,420 --> 00:02:31,720 I mean, I, I know I don't wanna mess up 24 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:34,550 some poor kid's life. 25 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:35,930 You're not gonna mess anything up. 26 00:02:36,050 --> 00:02:37,260 All right? That's your mom talkin'. 27 00:02:37,390 --> 00:02:38,640 But we already screwed up the plan. 28 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:40,720 This wasn't supposed to happen first. 29 00:02:40,850 --> 00:02:43,230 We're, we were supposed to get married, 30 00:02:43,350 --> 00:02:46,690 we were supposed to, to have a few years together, you know? 31 00:02:47,650 --> 00:02:49,780 My gosh, my mom's gonna kill me. 32 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:54,200 Babe, when I tell her, she's never gonna speak to me again. 33 00:03:01,700 --> 00:03:03,460 Do you wanna keep this baby? 34 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:09,420 -Only if it's a boy. -What? 35 00:03:09,540 --> 00:03:11,840 -Babe? -Listen, I'm kidding. 36 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:14,260 Come-come here. Give me your hands. 37 00:03:14,380 --> 00:03:15,680 Listen... 38 00:03:17,590 --> 00:03:19,050 Okay. 39 00:03:19,180 --> 00:03:23,730 Look at me. Look at me. Hey, hey. Okay. 40 00:03:23,850 --> 00:03:26,690 This is not the worst thing that could happen, you know? 41 00:03:26,810 --> 00:03:28,440 I'm, I'm, I'm... 42 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:31,360 I'm half way through my twenties. 43 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:33,610 I think I'm ready. 44 00:03:33,740 --> 00:03:35,820 Yeah. Yeah. I do. 45 00:03:35,950 --> 00:03:36,950 And I think you're ready, too. 46 00:03:37,070 --> 00:03:38,910 -We can do this. -[chuckles] 47 00:03:39,030 --> 00:03:40,830 We got this. 48 00:03:40,950 --> 00:03:42,540 -Okay. -Okay? 49 00:03:47,830 --> 00:03:48,960 Ah... 50 00:03:50,380 --> 00:03:52,670 When I tell my mom that I'm having a baby 51 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:54,760 and we're not married, she's... 52 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,010 My parents are not gonna be happy with me. 53 00:03:57,130 --> 00:03:58,260 Okay. 54 00:03:59,300 --> 00:04:01,350 Well, let's do that, then. 55 00:04:01,470 --> 00:04:04,350 I-I wasn't, I promise, I wasn't trying to talk you into anyth-- 56 00:04:04,470 --> 00:04:08,020 I know, but I'm serious. Let's get married right now. 57 00:04:08,150 --> 00:04:09,650 Justice of the Peace. 58 00:04:09,770 --> 00:04:11,480 [chuckles] 59 00:04:11,610 --> 00:04:13,320 Come on. 60 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:14,780 What about a wedding? 61 00:04:14,900 --> 00:04:17,030 My poor mother has been planning the thing 62 00:04:17,150 --> 00:04:18,400 since before I was born. 63 00:04:18,530 --> 00:04:21,410 Um, babe, I know, a-and... 64 00:04:21,530 --> 00:04:23,410 Well, truthfully, I feel like we're kinda 65 00:04:23,540 --> 00:04:26,080 past that now, right? 66 00:04:26,210 --> 00:04:29,080 I mean, we, you, we're havin' a baby. 67 00:04:29,210 --> 00:04:31,130 [chuckles] 68 00:04:31,250 --> 00:04:34,420 And we gotta do it right. 69 00:04:34,550 --> 00:04:36,720 No, I know. You're right. You're right. 70 00:04:38,260 --> 00:04:39,430 So... 71 00:04:39,550 --> 00:04:41,850 But you haven't even proposed yet. 72 00:04:41,970 --> 00:04:43,930 [sighs] We can't just go to the courthouse. 73 00:04:44,060 --> 00:04:46,230 -There's a lot of girls-- -Will you marry me? 74 00:04:47,350 --> 00:04:50,350 -Charlie, I love you. -I love you. 75 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:54,230 -We don't have to rush into-- -I'm not, um... 76 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:55,980 I got things a little out of order. 77 00:04:56,110 --> 00:04:57,490 I realize that, but, um... 78 00:04:57,610 --> 00:05:00,700 [mellow music] 79 00:05:02,370 --> 00:05:03,780 I'll be right back. 80 00:05:03,910 --> 00:05:06,120 Babe. Babe. 81 00:05:06,250 --> 00:05:07,700 -[Charlie] How are you? -Fine. How are you? 82 00:05:07,830 --> 00:05:09,500 -Fantastic. I... Well... -What can I do for you? 83 00:05:09,620 --> 00:05:12,710 [indistinct chatter] 84 00:05:15,300 --> 00:05:17,010 -Can I have that? -Sure. 85 00:05:17,130 --> 00:05:18,300 Excellent service. Thank you. 86 00:05:18,420 --> 00:05:19,930 [indistinct chatter] 87 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:25,010 Yup. Okay. [clears throat] 88 00:05:25,140 --> 00:05:26,930 -What are you doing? -Give me your hands. 89 00:05:27,060 --> 00:05:29,060 -Babe. -Give me your hands. 90 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:35,520 I'll live only for your happiness. 91 00:05:35,650 --> 00:05:39,150 For your love, I would give my last breath. 92 00:05:39,280 --> 00:05:41,450 -[whispering] Not here. -Shh... 93 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:45,580 As long as I live, 94 00:05:45,700 --> 00:05:47,160 I will love you. 95 00:05:48,540 --> 00:05:51,120 I promise you this. 96 00:05:51,250 --> 00:05:55,500 There is nothing I wouldn't give from this moment on. 97 00:05:57,630 --> 00:05:59,510 Ali, will you marry me? 98 00:06:02,010 --> 00:06:04,640 I hope you know what you're getting yourself into. 99 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:06,220 Are you saying yes? 100 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:09,720 Yes, yes, I'll marry you. 101 00:06:09,850 --> 00:06:13,230 Yeah? Ah. Okay. All right. So listen. 102 00:06:13,350 --> 00:06:16,440 Oh, baby, you-you, you really, you don't have to put that on. 103 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:17,940 This is gonna be great. 104 00:06:18,570 --> 00:06:20,240 [Alice chuckles] 105 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:21,950 Please. 106 00:06:22,070 --> 00:06:24,780 I mean, you're insane. I'm marrying a... 107 00:06:24,910 --> 00:06:27,200 Okay, don't get... Just don't get too attached to that. 108 00:06:27,330 --> 00:06:28,950 That's... I'm gonna replace that soon. 109 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:30,950 I really do love you. 110 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,250 I really do love you, too. 111 00:06:33,370 --> 00:06:36,080 [music continues] 112 00:06:36,210 --> 00:06:38,880 -Uh... Wha-- -Did... 113 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:42,050 Did you just propose with Shania Twain lyrics? 114 00:06:42,170 --> 00:06:45,050 Yes. Yes, I did. But you can't take it back now. 115 00:06:45,180 --> 00:06:46,850 It's too late. She said yes, everybody! 116 00:06:46,970 --> 00:06:49,180 -I know you guys were watching. -[crowd applauding] 117 00:06:54,140 --> 00:06:55,270 [Alice] Is he healthy? 118 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:57,060 Mm-hmm. Sure is. 119 00:06:57,190 --> 00:06:58,690 Sorry about the scare. 120 00:06:58,820 --> 00:07:00,860 You have a nice-sized little boy. 121 00:07:00,980 --> 00:07:03,070 -[chuckles] -And you're due? 122 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:04,490 Oh, the doctor says eight weeks, 123 00:07:04,610 --> 00:07:07,450 but I think he'll come early. 124 00:07:07,570 --> 00:07:10,080 Every first-time mama thinks they're gonna deliver early. 125 00:07:10,200 --> 00:07:12,660 They're like, "There's no way I can get any bigger 126 00:07:12,790 --> 00:07:14,790 than I already am," but they do. 127 00:07:14,910 --> 00:07:17,540 -Really? -Mm-hmm. 128 00:07:17,670 --> 00:07:19,250 [sighs] This scare just made me realize how much 129 00:07:19,380 --> 00:07:20,840 I really do want him here. 130 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:22,380 Yeah, there's nothing like the first time 131 00:07:22,510 --> 00:07:23,420 you see that baby. 132 00:07:23,550 --> 00:07:25,340 Oh, you have kids? 133 00:07:25,470 --> 00:07:26,970 -Mm-hmm. -How many? 134 00:07:27,090 --> 00:07:29,890 I have two. I just gave birth to my second. 135 00:07:30,010 --> 00:07:32,720 -Few months ago. -Oh... 136 00:07:32,850 --> 00:07:35,140 [sighs] I seem to want him to be here, 137 00:07:35,270 --> 00:07:37,900 but then at, at the same time, I don't know what to do 138 00:07:38,020 --> 00:07:39,940 when he does get here, you know? 139 00:07:40,070 --> 00:07:41,570 And more than anything, I just don't wanna-- 140 00:07:41,690 --> 00:07:44,990 Honey, you don't have to be afraid of a child. 141 00:07:45,110 --> 00:07:47,490 You're going to a great mom. 142 00:07:47,610 --> 00:07:49,570 You're gonna mess up, yes. 143 00:07:49,700 --> 00:07:51,370 All you gotta do is love 'em 144 00:07:51,490 --> 00:07:53,700 and put the fear of God in 'em as they grow. 145 00:07:53,830 --> 00:07:55,250 I don't know, I don't know 146 00:07:55,370 --> 00:07:58,750 what is about motherhood that just has me so... 147 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:02,000 I don't know, second-guessing myself, I just... 148 00:08:02,130 --> 00:08:04,260 Uh, I mean, I-I know I need to get diapers and we need 149 00:08:04,380 --> 00:08:05,590 to finish safe-proofing the house 'cause we're not 150 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:06,590 done with that yet, but-- 151 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:07,680 I say you need Jesus 152 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:10,510 more than all that stuff. 153 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:12,510 Do you go to church? 154 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:14,220 I-I did when I was younger, but, you know, 155 00:08:14,350 --> 00:08:16,140 it's-it's been a while. 156 00:08:16,270 --> 00:08:18,730 Tell you what, tell your husband that your new friend, Teresa, 157 00:08:18,850 --> 00:08:21,150 invited you to church. 158 00:08:21,270 --> 00:08:23,820 Give me a call and tell me what he says. 159 00:08:23,940 --> 00:08:26,280 -Yeah. Um, okay. -All right. 160 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:30,070 -[Teresa chuckles] -Teresa. 161 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:32,370 Why don't you finish getting cleaned up, take your time, 162 00:08:32,490 --> 00:08:34,790 and you better not forget to call me. 163 00:08:34,910 --> 00:08:37,460 -Okay. Bye. -Bye. 164 00:08:37,580 --> 00:08:40,670 [instrumental music] 165 00:08:52,140 --> 00:08:53,760 [woman] Well, you have to read it. You have-- 166 00:08:53,890 --> 00:08:55,640 I'm not gonna read it and you can't make me! 167 00:08:55,770 --> 00:08:57,680 [woman] Christopher, I'm gonna count to three. 168 00:08:57,810 --> 00:08:59,190 And if you don't quit your whining, 169 00:08:59,310 --> 00:09:01,440 I'm gonna leave you here at the library. 170 00:09:01,560 --> 00:09:03,480 [boy] Stop pulling my arm! [woman] That's one. 171 00:09:03,610 --> 00:09:06,610 [boy] No, it's not. [woman] Yes, it is. 172 00:09:06,730 --> 00:09:08,950 [mother] Did you get the books? [kids] Yes, ma'am. 173 00:09:11,110 --> 00:09:13,580 -Your first? -Yeah. 174 00:09:13,700 --> 00:09:15,660 How exciting. 175 00:09:15,790 --> 00:09:16,910 You make it look so easy. 176 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:18,870 [chuckles] Yeah, well, it isn't. 177 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:22,790 James, grab your sister's hand, stop by the front door please. 178 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:25,800 But it's worth it, God gives us grace and strength, 179 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:27,130 and each child is a blessing. 180 00:09:27,260 --> 00:09:30,010 -You enjoy yours. -Thank you. I will. 181 00:09:31,680 --> 00:09:34,350 All right, kids. Inside voices. 182 00:09:43,860 --> 00:09:47,860 So I feel like you've got enough diapers for three babies. 183 00:09:47,980 --> 00:09:49,690 Is there something you're not telling me right now? 184 00:09:49,820 --> 00:09:51,400 -No. -No? 185 00:09:51,530 --> 00:09:52,950 We just have to be prepared, this is 186 00:09:53,070 --> 00:09:55,160 a living human being we're having here. 187 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:56,620 Yeah, it's a, it's a baby, you know? 188 00:09:56,740 --> 00:09:58,290 We're not the first people to be parents. 189 00:09:58,410 --> 00:10:01,410 The thing eats and sleeps and then pees and poops 190 00:10:01,540 --> 00:10:04,460 in the first year, that's about it, right? 191 00:10:04,580 --> 00:10:05,790 Ali, we got this thing outnumbered. 192 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:07,250 It's like basketball, right? 193 00:10:07,380 --> 00:10:08,840 There's two of us, we're big people, 194 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,510 two grown-ups against one little-bitty baby. 195 00:10:11,630 --> 00:10:13,300 [Charlie] We got this. 196 00:10:24,770 --> 00:10:27,270 Does it not scare you at all to be a parent? 197 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:30,030 Nope. Not really. 198 00:10:31,650 --> 00:10:33,700 Okay, maybe a little bit. 199 00:10:33,820 --> 00:10:35,620 But I figure it'll just come naturally, you know? 200 00:10:35,740 --> 00:10:37,200 We'll roll with it. 201 00:10:37,330 --> 00:10:40,290 [sighs] I just don't wanna turn out like my mom. 202 00:10:40,410 --> 00:10:42,000 What if I screw up my kid? 203 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:45,040 You are not your mom. You never will be. 204 00:10:45,170 --> 00:10:48,750 And besides, I like how you turned out. 205 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:51,050 Yeah. Do you mean pregnant? 206 00:10:51,170 --> 00:10:53,930 Not sure many people would agree with you on how I turned out. 207 00:10:54,050 --> 00:10:55,640 Besides, doesn't everybody say that they're not gonna do 208 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:57,760 what their parents did, and then they, 209 00:10:57,890 --> 00:11:00,560 ah, they turn out just like 'em? 210 00:11:00,680 --> 00:11:02,930 Ali, moms have been raising babies for centuries. 211 00:11:03,060 --> 00:11:05,060 And you got all these books you've checked out, 212 00:11:05,190 --> 00:11:06,770 the magazines that you've bought 213 00:11:06,900 --> 00:11:09,360 and the horrible talk shows you've been watching. 214 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:12,490 -Hey. -We'll figure it out. Okay? 215 00:11:12,610 --> 00:11:15,110 And listen, worst case, if we got questions, 216 00:11:15,240 --> 00:11:18,070 we find somebody who has the answers. 217 00:11:18,200 --> 00:11:19,950 Yeah, a nurse who was doing the ultrasound today, 218 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:23,830 she's a mom of two, and she was, she was awesome. 219 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:25,710 -She gave me her number. -See? Great. 220 00:11:25,830 --> 00:11:28,830 Call her. Take her to coffee, pick her brain. 221 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:32,300 She invited us to, uh, go to church. 222 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:35,170 -Huh! -I mean... 223 00:11:35,300 --> 00:11:36,590 Some churches have mommy groups 224 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:38,600 that women can go to, 225 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:41,180 or like a-a mommy's-day-out program. 226 00:11:43,270 --> 00:11:45,060 It, it might, it might be a really good way 227 00:11:45,180 --> 00:11:47,600 to, to get some help. 228 00:11:47,730 --> 00:11:49,400 Does it start early on Sundays? 229 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:51,320 Because you know I like to sleep in. 230 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,070 That's not all you like to do on Sunday mornings. 231 00:11:53,190 --> 00:11:54,320 [laughs] Hey, look, I'm not the only-- 232 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:55,990 Anyways, your days of sleeping in 233 00:11:56,110 --> 00:11:58,740 are coming to an abrupt halt, mister. 234 00:12:02,290 --> 00:12:04,040 I can't do this alone. 235 00:12:06,250 --> 00:12:09,710 I really think it might be a good idea if we start going. 236 00:12:09,830 --> 00:12:12,000 [mellow music] 237 00:12:12,130 --> 00:12:13,550 Okay. [sighs] 238 00:12:14,630 --> 00:12:15,800 Thank you, sweetheart. 239 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:17,630 Well, I do have to finish this crib, 240 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:20,010 otherwise this kid's not gonna have a place to sleep. 241 00:12:20,140 --> 00:12:21,550 It looks like you're pretty much done to me. 242 00:12:21,680 --> 00:12:23,220 -Yeah, does it? -Mm-hmm. 243 00:12:23,350 --> 00:12:24,640 -Okay. -[Alice chuckles] 244 00:12:25,850 --> 00:12:28,020 Hey, I need you to install the car seat... 245 00:12:28,140 --> 00:12:31,230 [soulful music] 246 00:12:42,330 --> 00:12:44,870 -Hey, you all right? -[breathing heavily] 247 00:12:49,250 --> 00:12:51,290 [doctor] All right, take the breaths and let's push him out. 248 00:12:51,420 --> 00:12:54,090 -Do it. Now push, push. -[doctor] Push hard! Push hard! 249 00:12:54,210 --> 00:12:55,880 [doctor] Push hard. You got it! You got it! 250 00:12:56,010 --> 00:12:58,630 You've got a baby. That's it. 251 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:01,850 [baby bawling] 252 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:33,330 [Alice sighing] 253 00:13:34,710 --> 00:13:36,170 Ronnie. 254 00:13:47,770 --> 00:13:49,430 [Charlie] He's beautiful. 255 00:14:00,070 --> 00:14:03,160 [instrumental music] 256 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:19,800 Hey, Christie, I'm here to pick up Kate, uh, Morris. 257 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:22,050 Um, I'm afraid... 258 00:14:22,170 --> 00:14:26,100 Katie was a little out of hand this morning. 259 00:14:26,220 --> 00:14:29,010 She hit two of the other children with wooden blocks. 260 00:14:29,140 --> 00:14:32,020 [bawling] Mommy! 261 00:14:32,140 --> 00:14:33,440 I'm so sorry. 262 00:14:33,560 --> 00:14:35,690 Well, we tried to get her to calm down, 263 00:14:35,810 --> 00:14:37,520 but she doesn't seem to understand 264 00:14:37,650 --> 00:14:40,740 that you cannot throw wooden blocks at other people, 265 00:14:40,860 --> 00:14:44,490 including me. So I thought you might wanna address that. 266 00:14:44,610 --> 00:14:46,450 Of course. Yeah. 267 00:14:46,570 --> 00:14:49,240 You know our policy is if kids keep hitting, 268 00:14:49,370 --> 00:14:51,910 then we have to have a parent stay with them 269 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:54,330 during the service or else the child has to sit 270 00:14:54,460 --> 00:14:56,670 with mom and dad in, um, big church 271 00:14:56,790 --> 00:14:58,460 until their next birthday. 272 00:14:58,590 --> 00:15:00,630 I completely understand, um... 273 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:04,300 I-I-I'll talk with my husband, and i-it won't happen again. 274 00:15:04,430 --> 00:15:06,430 All right. Thank you. 275 00:15:07,300 --> 00:15:09,050 [baby bawling] 276 00:15:09,180 --> 00:15:11,930 [Ronnie] Mommy, mommy, I'm gonna be an assassin when I grow up. 277 00:15:12,060 --> 00:15:14,310 And then and... 278 00:15:14,440 --> 00:15:17,360 And I'm not gonna have a name so the police can't find me, 279 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:19,400 and I'm gonna hack into the computer 280 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:22,280 and I'm gonna steal all the government's secret plans, 281 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:24,200 and then I'm gonna blow up a Death Star, 282 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:27,570 and then destroy all the monsters in the ocean. 283 00:15:27,700 --> 00:15:29,700 Hey, mommy, what do you want for your birthday? 284 00:15:29,830 --> 00:15:31,620 For you to not be a complete screw-up 285 00:15:31,740 --> 00:15:33,660 for one day, Ronnie! 286 00:15:33,790 --> 00:15:36,080 [Kate bawling] 287 00:15:36,210 --> 00:15:39,290 [somber music] 288 00:15:40,420 --> 00:15:43,460 [Kate bawling] 289 00:15:44,590 --> 00:15:45,930 [door slams] 290 00:15:47,510 --> 00:15:48,890 Honey, you okay? 291 00:15:49,010 --> 00:15:52,220 -[Alice] I just need a minute. -[Kate bawling] 292 00:15:52,350 --> 00:15:54,140 -Daddy. -Okay. Hey, buddy. 293 00:15:54,270 --> 00:15:57,060 How you doing? Uh, Kate's got poop on her back. 294 00:15:57,190 --> 00:15:59,440 [Alice] Yeah, well, when is she not covered in poop? 295 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:01,070 Can you, can you please just change her 296 00:16:01,190 --> 00:16:03,320 so I can have five minutes alone? 297 00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:04,900 -Momma! -Okay. 298 00:16:05,030 --> 00:16:06,240 Hey, let's give mommy a second. 299 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:07,700 Uh, let me go change her real quick, okay? 300 00:16:07,820 --> 00:16:09,070 Then I'll come check... 301 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:10,620 Oh, that's, that's awful. 302 00:16:10,740 --> 00:16:12,910 [Kate] Mama! 303 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:17,160 [groaning] 304 00:16:19,540 --> 00:16:20,920 Wipes. Where... 305 00:16:22,250 --> 00:16:24,260 [Kate whimpering] 306 00:16:25,210 --> 00:16:26,930 -[Kate bawling] -Oh, Kate. 307 00:16:27,050 --> 00:16:30,640 Stop. Stop moving. You've done enough. 308 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:32,100 Hey. Hey, I'll do it. 309 00:16:32,220 --> 00:16:33,770 -I'll do it. -I got this. 310 00:16:33,890 --> 00:16:35,430 I don't want you changing her when you're upset. 311 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:36,940 Yeah, well, you locked yourself in the bathroom 312 00:16:37,060 --> 00:16:38,640 and said you needed help, so I'm helping. 313 00:16:38,770 --> 00:16:40,860 I just needed a minute. I can do my job, thank you. 314 00:16:40,980 --> 00:16:42,310 [Kate sobbing] 315 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:44,030 -Hey. -Whatever. 316 00:16:44,150 --> 00:16:46,070 Hey, Teresa and Kenneth are gonna be here at 6:30. 317 00:16:46,190 --> 00:16:49,530 -How long do burgers take? -Perfect night for company. 318 00:16:49,660 --> 00:16:51,280 Like, 30 minutes. I'll get into it. 319 00:16:51,410 --> 00:16:54,160 Hey, one more thing. Can you come back here for a minute? 320 00:16:55,790 --> 00:16:57,290 Sure. 321 00:16:57,410 --> 00:16:58,580 Tonight we need to talk about Kate. 322 00:16:58,710 --> 00:16:59,870 She was, I guess, 323 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:01,630 hitting other kids in church yesterday 324 00:17:01,750 --> 00:17:03,340 and they said that they might have 325 00:17:03,460 --> 00:17:05,710 to actually kick her out of nursery. 326 00:17:05,840 --> 00:17:08,130 Kick her out of nursery? That's crazy. She's two. 327 00:17:08,260 --> 00:17:09,470 -That's what two-year-olds do-- -Yeah, well, let's just... 328 00:17:09,590 --> 00:17:10,800 Let's just talk about it tonight 329 00:17:10,930 --> 00:17:13,220 after they have left. [sighs] 330 00:17:13,350 --> 00:17:14,600 Kate and Ronnie have been running the house lately 331 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:17,480 and it is, it-it is wearing me out. 332 00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:19,850 I'm sure it's a phase. She'll grow out of it. 333 00:17:19,980 --> 00:17:23,110 -Talk to Teresa about her. -I don't think it's a phase. 334 00:17:23,230 --> 00:17:25,020 The other kids are not hitting each other. 335 00:17:25,150 --> 00:17:26,400 And we are her parents. 336 00:17:26,530 --> 00:17:27,900 We're supposed to fix things like this. 337 00:17:28,030 --> 00:17:29,610 I, I don't want to talk to Teresa. 338 00:17:29,740 --> 00:17:30,860 I wanna talk to you about it. 339 00:17:30,990 --> 00:17:32,450 I wanna talk to my husband. 340 00:17:32,570 --> 00:17:34,280 I want to hear your ideas. 341 00:17:34,410 --> 00:17:37,410 I-I cannot do everything by myself. 342 00:17:37,540 --> 00:17:39,910 Okay, we'll talk about it. 343 00:17:40,040 --> 00:17:43,330 Great. I'm so glad you're interested in your kids' lives. 344 00:17:47,170 --> 00:17:48,510 Hey. 345 00:17:57,390 --> 00:17:59,350 Quiet out here. 346 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:01,270 Yeah, I know. Kinda nice, isn't it? 347 00:18:01,390 --> 00:18:03,270 Yeah, tell me about it. 348 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:06,900 With three under six, the sound of nothing can be pretty sweet. 349 00:18:07,030 --> 00:18:09,320 Honestly, I don't know how you guys do it. 350 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:13,200 Ronnie and Kate are almost too much for Ali as it is. 351 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:16,200 -What about you? -Oh, I'm fine with two. 352 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:20,080 No, I'm talking about the stress. 353 00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:23,830 -Does it get to you? -I just tune it out. 354 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:27,550 I know, man, but, hey, I work and come home, I gotta unwind. 355 00:18:27,670 --> 00:18:29,340 You don't think Alice is tired, too? 356 00:18:29,460 --> 00:18:31,670 I'm sure she is, but I don't know, quick trips, I just... 357 00:18:31,800 --> 00:18:33,510 I don't know, takes it out of me, man. 358 00:18:33,630 --> 00:18:35,850 Well, look, man, I get it, all right? 359 00:18:35,970 --> 00:18:37,850 When it comes to raising kids, the days are long, 360 00:18:37,970 --> 00:18:39,810 but the years are short. 361 00:18:39,930 --> 00:18:43,020 Not short enough, if you ask me. 362 00:18:43,140 --> 00:18:45,650 You remember the challenge that Pastor Mark gave us on Sunday? 363 00:18:45,770 --> 00:18:47,980 -Nah, I was out of town. -You were out of town. 364 00:18:48,110 --> 00:18:50,900 Well, look, he, uh, quoted some guy that said, 365 00:18:51,030 --> 00:18:53,450 "Children are the living messages that we send forth 366 00:18:53,570 --> 00:18:56,450 to a time that we will not see." 367 00:18:57,450 --> 00:18:58,580 Hm. 368 00:18:59,580 --> 00:19:01,160 You should get the tape. 369 00:19:01,290 --> 00:19:03,160 He talks about giving a vision 370 00:19:03,290 --> 00:19:05,830 for what God might have for your kids. 371 00:19:05,960 --> 00:19:08,670 Something more than hoping that they grow up happy and healthy 372 00:19:08,790 --> 00:19:10,340 and get a good job and get married. 373 00:19:10,460 --> 00:19:13,170 Oh. I think I burnt these. 374 00:19:15,050 --> 00:19:17,140 Yeah, I hear you, man. 375 00:19:17,260 --> 00:19:21,470 It got me to realize that our kids aren't the problem. 376 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:22,930 It's us, man. 377 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:26,440 Yeah, uh, y-you and me, that's right. 378 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:28,900 I'm the problem? 379 00:19:29,020 --> 00:19:31,070 Remember that verse that says, "Without a vision, 380 00:19:31,190 --> 00:19:33,150 the people will perish?" 381 00:19:33,280 --> 00:19:34,900 Can't say that I do. 382 00:19:35,030 --> 00:19:38,370 Well, it applies to the family as well. 383 00:19:38,490 --> 00:19:41,540 You can't run around living life one day at a time. 384 00:19:41,660 --> 00:19:44,790 You gotta know where you're going, and then lead. 385 00:19:44,910 --> 00:19:47,500 [somber music] 386 00:19:48,540 --> 00:19:49,880 All right. 387 00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:51,880 All right. 388 00:19:53,010 --> 00:19:54,420 [Charlie] Gimme that ball. 389 00:19:56,220 --> 00:19:58,220 [Charlie] Literally pulls up from half-court 390 00:19:58,340 --> 00:19:59,720 and he makes it, just actually, this is something 391 00:19:59,850 --> 00:20:01,810 I do all the time. It was ridiculous. 392 00:20:01,930 --> 00:20:03,390 I saw the replay of that on the news. 393 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:04,850 -Did you? -It was unbelievable. 394 00:20:04,980 --> 00:20:07,060 -It was, man, it was crazy. -Excuse me. 395 00:20:07,190 --> 00:20:09,520 -Yes, son? -I finished my food. 396 00:20:09,650 --> 00:20:11,230 Can I get a popsicle? 397 00:20:13,690 --> 00:20:16,360 Ms. Alice, John David has a question for you. 398 00:20:16,490 --> 00:20:17,910 Yes, John David? 399 00:20:18,030 --> 00:20:21,410 -May I please get popsicles? -Of course you can. 400 00:20:21,530 --> 00:20:22,990 They're in the freezer, on the bottom shelf. 401 00:20:23,120 --> 00:20:24,830 [Kate babbling] 402 00:20:26,410 --> 00:20:28,250 Your little man has become quite the gentleman. 403 00:20:28,370 --> 00:20:30,420 I want a popsicle, too. 404 00:20:30,540 --> 00:20:32,250 You can have one when all of your food's gone, buddy. 405 00:20:32,420 --> 00:20:34,590 But I can't eat it, it's too much food. 406 00:20:34,710 --> 00:20:36,590 I want a popsicle like John David. 407 00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:38,470 Son, your mother gave you an answer. 408 00:20:38,590 --> 00:20:41,680 You cannot have dessert until you finish your food. 409 00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:44,270 Sit down, finish your food. 410 00:20:44,390 --> 00:20:47,020 Do you mind if I try something? 411 00:20:48,060 --> 00:20:49,350 Go ahead. 412 00:20:51,190 --> 00:20:52,820 Now, Ronnie, you know 413 00:20:52,940 --> 00:20:54,070 your plate has to be empty 414 00:20:54,190 --> 00:20:57,030 before you go get dessert, right? 415 00:20:57,150 --> 00:20:58,400 Right? 416 00:21:08,660 --> 00:21:10,670 It looks like your plate's all empty, hon. 417 00:21:10,790 --> 00:21:13,090 I guess that means you get dessert. 418 00:21:14,460 --> 00:21:16,800 Can I get a popsicle now? 419 00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:19,050 Yes, you may. Thank you for asking. 420 00:21:22,470 --> 00:21:24,060 [indistinct chatter] 421 00:21:24,180 --> 00:21:27,600 [Kenneth] My dad did that with me once. Never forgot it. 422 00:21:27,730 --> 00:21:30,980 "That's the picture of grace," he would say. 423 00:21:31,100 --> 00:21:33,610 Getting what you don't deserve because somebody else 424 00:21:33,730 --> 00:21:37,690 did what you should have done for you. 425 00:21:37,820 --> 00:21:39,440 [Charlie] You just wanted to eat more hamburger, man. 426 00:21:39,570 --> 00:21:41,780 Don't be, don't get all spiritual on me over there. 427 00:21:41,910 --> 00:21:43,490 [laughs] You just remember that 428 00:21:43,620 --> 00:21:45,410 the next time you're makin' these hamburgers out there. 429 00:21:45,530 --> 00:21:47,370 We got more if you need it. 430 00:21:47,490 --> 00:21:50,210 You don't have to eat my kid's food all the time. 431 00:21:50,330 --> 00:21:51,920 -Bring him a popsicle. -[laughing] 432 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:54,340 [Charlie] You steal my kid's hamburger. 433 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:00,720 Just five more minutes and I'll help you with those dishes. 434 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:02,680 Oh, no, no, no, no. You sit and rest. 435 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,300 No, I can't have you doing all that extra-- 436 00:22:04,430 --> 00:22:07,470 -Ronnie wants to know-- -Did you hear us talking? 437 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:10,520 -Excuse me, mama. -You're excused. 438 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:12,980 -Ronnie wants to know can-- -May I... 439 00:22:13,100 --> 00:22:17,280 -May I play Frogger with him? -What's that? 440 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:19,150 [Alice] Oh, it's just this little video game with frogs 441 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:22,110 trying to, like, cross the road. It's-it's totally harmless. 442 00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,120 Yes, you can play Froggy with Ronnie. 443 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,660 [chuckles] It's Frogger, mommy. 444 00:22:27,790 --> 00:22:29,540 Well, whatever it's called, yes, you can play 445 00:22:29,660 --> 00:22:31,580 for about ten minutes, and then we gotta go. 446 00:22:31,710 --> 00:22:34,880 Thank you. My mom said I can play! 447 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:37,210 [chuckles] Kids. 448 00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:41,220 Hey, I'm sorry about Ronnie tonight. Hm... 449 00:22:41,340 --> 00:22:42,880 What for? 450 00:22:43,010 --> 00:22:47,140 His, his manners, or his lack of manners, I should say. 451 00:22:47,260 --> 00:22:49,310 Well, how does he normally act? 452 00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:52,310 I don't know, I guess... 453 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:53,890 I guess I just don't notice it, you know, 454 00:22:54,020 --> 00:22:56,110 when it's just him and Kate, but I-I don't know 455 00:22:56,230 --> 00:22:58,070 why he just seems to always decide 456 00:22:58,190 --> 00:22:59,570 to act up whenever we have company around. 457 00:22:59,690 --> 00:23:01,280 John David used to be just the same. 458 00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:02,860 -Really? -Mm-hmm. 459 00:23:02,990 --> 00:23:04,410 It took us weeks to get him to learn 460 00:23:04,530 --> 00:23:06,160 basic table manners. 461 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:07,570 'Cause there ain't no kid gonna say things like 462 00:23:07,700 --> 00:23:10,540 please and thank you on their own. 463 00:23:10,660 --> 00:23:12,580 Yeah, well, you're gonna have to, uh, lend me 464 00:23:12,700 --> 00:23:14,580 whatever book you used to train him. 465 00:23:14,710 --> 00:23:17,790 Oh, you already got it, honey, and it's all in there. 466 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,300 -In The Bible. -Oh, well... 467 00:23:20,420 --> 00:23:22,300 I guess I missed the chapter on manners. 468 00:23:22,420 --> 00:23:24,380 Well, how much time do you spend reading Proverbs 469 00:23:24,510 --> 00:23:26,550 or memorizing verses? 470 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,810 I mean, I have all my kids learn Proverbs 23, 13 and 14 471 00:23:29,930 --> 00:23:31,810 as soon as they are old enough to talk. 472 00:23:31,930 --> 00:23:35,310 "Do not withhold discipline from your children. 473 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,100 Whom the Lord loves, he disciplines." 474 00:23:37,230 --> 00:23:40,070 Yeah, but I just, I don't know 475 00:23:40,190 --> 00:23:41,780 that I can intentionally hurt my child, though. 476 00:23:41,900 --> 00:23:44,400 Alice, listen, some of the greatest lessons in life 477 00:23:44,530 --> 00:23:45,740 come amidst pain. 478 00:23:45,860 --> 00:23:48,030 If there's no sting, then what you get 479 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,490 is a spoiled child. 480 00:23:50,620 --> 00:23:52,830 And I know you don't want that. 481 00:23:52,950 --> 00:23:55,620 [somber music] 482 00:23:55,750 --> 00:23:58,830 [gunfire on video game] 483 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:14,100 Hon, your son is watching you play that game. 484 00:24:14,230 --> 00:24:17,270 Well, can you take him in the other room with you? 485 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:18,940 I-I have to run a bath for Kate. 486 00:24:19,060 --> 00:24:22,150 Can you not just pause your game and please deal with him? 487 00:24:22,270 --> 00:24:23,690 Hey, bro, why don't you go put your pajamas on 488 00:24:23,820 --> 00:24:25,070 and brush your teeth, and I'll-I'll come 489 00:24:25,190 --> 00:24:26,400 pray with you in a minute, okay? 490 00:24:26,530 --> 00:24:27,990 But why? 491 00:24:28,110 --> 00:24:31,660 Because it's time to go to bed. Got him. 492 00:24:31,780 --> 00:24:34,830 But why can't I just watch for a few more minutes? 493 00:24:34,950 --> 00:24:37,120 Buddy, this is a grown-up game, okay? 494 00:24:37,250 --> 00:24:39,960 I've told you that before. Now please, you gotta go to bed. 495 00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:41,290 Why? 496 00:24:41,420 --> 00:24:44,760 [loudly] Son, go to bed now, please. 497 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:46,880 [crying] 498 00:24:47,010 --> 00:24:49,010 Honey. 499 00:24:49,130 --> 00:24:51,720 Charlie, I cannot believe you. 500 00:24:51,850 --> 00:24:54,140 -Come on. -[gunfire on video game] 501 00:24:59,100 --> 00:25:01,690 [gunfire on video game] 502 00:25:03,110 --> 00:25:04,940 [explosion on video game] 503 00:25:05,070 --> 00:25:06,650 [gunfire continues] 504 00:25:10,490 --> 00:25:11,910 [controller thuds] 505 00:25:13,740 --> 00:25:15,080 [somber music] 506 00:25:18,910 --> 00:25:22,830 I'm sure that you both realize that Ronnie's very bright. 507 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:26,590 We've been tracking his test scores over the past four years, 508 00:25:26,710 --> 00:25:30,430 and he's in the 97th percentile in reading and language. 509 00:25:30,550 --> 00:25:33,260 He's in the 99th percentile in math, 510 00:25:33,390 --> 00:25:35,810 he's in the 99th percentile in science. 511 00:25:35,930 --> 00:25:38,180 So even though Ronnie's a freshman, we would like 512 00:25:38,310 --> 00:25:41,520 to encourage you to have him start taking the SAT now, 513 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,770 and once a year, every year. 514 00:25:43,900 --> 00:25:46,610 I don't wanna create any false expectations, 515 00:25:46,730 --> 00:25:49,530 but students with these kinds of early scores 516 00:25:49,650 --> 00:25:53,120 often go on to become National Merit scholars. 517 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:56,870 I'd imagine he will have his pick of college options, 518 00:25:56,990 --> 00:25:58,620 and many of those options will likely come 519 00:25:58,750 --> 00:26:02,960 with some very generous scholarships attached. 520 00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:04,920 You both should be very proud. 521 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:06,340 Ninety-nine percentile. 522 00:26:06,460 --> 00:26:08,010 Did you have any idea he was that smart? 523 00:26:08,130 --> 00:26:09,340 I knew he got good grades 524 00:26:09,470 --> 00:26:10,720 and didn't have to work at it very hard. 525 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:12,340 -Phew. -What do you think? 526 00:26:12,470 --> 00:26:15,260 Free college? I... Yeah, I'm into it. 527 00:26:15,390 --> 00:26:16,760 You know how he's been skipping youth group, 528 00:26:16,890 --> 00:26:18,270 saying that he needed to study? 529 00:26:18,390 --> 00:26:19,930 This whole time I thought he was making excuses 530 00:26:20,060 --> 00:26:22,940 because it's boring and the, the leaders tell him, 531 00:26:23,060 --> 00:26:24,440 treat him like he's in sixth grade. 532 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,060 But he's actually been studying. 533 00:26:26,190 --> 00:26:27,360 Like, he's really smart. 534 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:30,280 Yeah. He's free-college smart. 535 00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:32,450 I'm not sure we'll get that lucky with Kate 536 00:26:32,570 --> 00:26:33,820 or Josh or Faith. 537 00:26:33,950 --> 00:26:35,700 -[Alice] See you at home. -Love you. 538 00:26:45,170 --> 00:26:46,750 [thuds] 539 00:26:48,460 --> 00:26:50,630 What are you doing with my Master Zord set? 540 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,590 Mom said I could use the Legos to build a fort for Freckle. 541 00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:55,840 That doesn't mean you take apart a Master Zord 542 00:26:55,970 --> 00:26:57,350 to build some stupid fort. 543 00:26:57,470 --> 00:26:59,720 It's not stupid, and mom said I could. 544 00:26:59,850 --> 00:27:01,980 She didn't say that. Now give it back. 545 00:27:02,100 --> 00:27:04,520 Mom said I could play with it. 546 00:27:04,650 --> 00:27:06,520 She's not your real mom, anyway. 547 00:27:06,650 --> 00:27:08,110 -Yes, she is. -Nuh-uh. 548 00:27:08,230 --> 00:27:09,940 Your real mom couldn't handle you. 549 00:27:10,070 --> 00:27:11,440 That's not true! 550 00:27:11,570 --> 00:27:13,570 That's what mom told me when we got you. 551 00:27:13,700 --> 00:27:16,410 -She did not! -Uh-huh. 552 00:27:16,530 --> 00:27:20,450 Here, take your stupid Legos. They're stupid anyway! 553 00:27:21,330 --> 00:27:23,620 [Faith] Mom! 554 00:27:27,460 --> 00:27:30,630 -[cell phone ringing] -[utensils clattering] 555 00:27:35,340 --> 00:27:37,430 Hey. You on your way? 556 00:27:37,550 --> 00:27:40,600 No, I'm not. I'm still at the office. 557 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,430 Hey, how was your day? 558 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:43,930 How late? 559 00:27:45,690 --> 00:27:48,190 How was your day is code for I'm going to be late. 560 00:27:48,310 --> 00:27:49,980 So just tell me how late. 561 00:27:50,110 --> 00:27:53,110 Okay, well, I-I do have another couple of hours of work 562 00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:54,860 to do on the Wilson project, and then I... 563 00:27:54,990 --> 00:27:57,240 -I should be able to get free. -Charlie, really? 564 00:27:57,360 --> 00:27:59,660 Listen, I know, but, uh, if I work hard, I can get it done 565 00:27:59,780 --> 00:28:02,160 by Friday and then no more late nights for a while. 566 00:28:02,290 --> 00:28:04,080 Yeah, well, I think this is, what, 567 00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,210 the tenth project you've said that on now. 568 00:28:08,420 --> 00:28:09,710 Hey, are you okay? 569 00:28:10,750 --> 00:28:13,630 No. No, not really. 570 00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:15,300 Josh and Faith had a big fight today, 571 00:28:15,420 --> 00:28:18,260 and Josh said some really horrible things to her. 572 00:28:18,390 --> 00:28:20,470 [Charlie] Like what? 573 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,560 Like that I'm not her real mom. 574 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:26,440 She's not little anymore, and I, and I don't know 575 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:27,810 how to talk to her about her mom 576 00:28:27,940 --> 00:28:30,110 and why she ultimately gave her up. 577 00:28:32,570 --> 00:28:34,650 I need you to be home before Josh goes to bed, 578 00:28:34,780 --> 00:28:36,360 so you can talk with him. 579 00:28:36,490 --> 00:28:39,070 He ignores me. He needs to hear it from you. 580 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,160 And I, and I don't know what to say to Faith either. 581 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,200 So maybe we can do that together? 582 00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:46,790 -Yeah, okay. Love you. -[keyboard keys clacking] 583 00:28:52,460 --> 00:28:54,250 Kids, dinner! 584 00:28:54,380 --> 00:28:56,050 Is dad home yet? 585 00:28:56,170 --> 00:28:58,720 Um, that was, that was him on the phone. 586 00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,220 Um, he's, he's stuck on a project, 587 00:29:01,350 --> 00:29:03,850 so he's not gonna be back until late. 588 00:29:03,970 --> 00:29:05,890 He was supposed to take me to the mall tonight. 589 00:29:06,020 --> 00:29:07,430 Yeah, well, I don't think that's gonna happen, sweetie. 590 00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:08,690 I'm sorry. 591 00:29:09,850 --> 00:29:12,900 Can I call dad and see if we can go? 592 00:29:13,020 --> 00:29:16,320 Yes, but, um, we need to eat dinner first. 593 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:18,820 Please go get the others. Tell them that it's time to eat. 594 00:29:18,950 --> 00:29:20,110 Okay. 595 00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:22,030 Ronnie, Josh, 596 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,490 Faith, dinner! 597 00:29:25,290 --> 00:29:26,620 [sighs] 598 00:29:29,710 --> 00:29:33,080 Laundry belongs in the bin, not next to the bin. 599 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,050 [sighs] 600 00:29:36,170 --> 00:29:37,720 I seem to make babies 601 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,260 faster than I can pick up their laundry. 602 00:29:40,380 --> 00:29:43,050 -How do you make babies? -What? 603 00:29:43,180 --> 00:29:44,680 What? 604 00:29:44,810 --> 00:29:46,720 We're not talking about this. Go get your PJs on. 605 00:29:46,850 --> 00:29:48,770 But I need to go potty. 606 00:29:48,890 --> 00:29:50,640 Then go potty. 607 00:29:57,690 --> 00:29:59,400 What you readin'? 608 00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:01,660 Something for a class? 609 00:30:01,780 --> 00:30:03,870 Nope, just for fun. 610 00:30:05,990 --> 00:30:09,290 Hey, on Saturday, um, I was planning on going to a concert 611 00:30:09,410 --> 00:30:10,620 downtown with some friends. 612 00:30:10,750 --> 00:30:12,370 -What show? -Uh... 613 00:30:12,500 --> 00:30:14,500 It's a band called Nihil Fit. 614 00:30:14,630 --> 00:30:16,210 -Are they Christian? -Kind of. 615 00:30:16,340 --> 00:30:18,630 Their band name is Latin for nothing comes 616 00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,260 and their music has some spiritual themes. 617 00:30:21,380 --> 00:30:23,390 Okay. And who would you be going with? 618 00:30:23,510 --> 00:30:24,640 I don't think you know them. 619 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:26,560 Justin Booth and Franklin Hauser? 620 00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,600 They're juniors. So they can give me a ride to the show. 621 00:30:29,730 --> 00:30:32,350 I think that should be fine, but let me just... 622 00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:34,730 Let me just talk with your dad before I let you know, okay? 623 00:30:34,860 --> 00:30:36,020 [Ronnie] Okay. 624 00:30:36,150 --> 00:30:38,650 -Night. -[Ronnie] Goodnight. 625 00:30:38,780 --> 00:30:41,950 -[instrumental music] -[line ringing] 626 00:30:44,570 --> 00:30:46,620 Hi, daddy, it's Katiebug. 627 00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:53,420 It's okay. I know you have really important things to do. 628 00:30:56,460 --> 00:30:59,500 I know the fair is Saturday. Do you think we could go? 629 00:31:01,590 --> 00:31:03,130 Thanks, daddy. 630 00:31:05,470 --> 00:31:07,300 She's putting everyone to bed. 631 00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:12,140 Love you, too, daddy. 632 00:31:16,650 --> 00:31:18,610 -Okay, turn it off. -Okay. 633 00:31:18,730 --> 00:31:20,320 -Put it up. -Okay. 634 00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:21,990 And here you go. 635 00:31:22,110 --> 00:31:24,200 So I wanna talk to you about the things that you said 636 00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:25,740 to your little sister today. 637 00:31:25,860 --> 00:31:28,330 I was just kidding with her. 638 00:31:28,450 --> 00:31:30,580 Honey, it's-it's not kidding if you tell her 639 00:31:30,700 --> 00:31:33,000 that I'm not her real mommy. 640 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:36,420 Well, you're not. That's what you told me. 641 00:31:36,540 --> 00:31:40,800 Well, I'm not her birth mom, yes, but I am her real mommy. 642 00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:43,840 God had her planned for our family before she was even born. 643 00:31:43,970 --> 00:31:47,180 Well, why didn't he put her in your tummy? 644 00:31:49,550 --> 00:31:52,140 God just has different plans sometimes, that's all. 645 00:31:53,730 --> 00:31:56,140 Look, sweetie, I know that having a sister can be 646 00:31:56,270 --> 00:31:58,770 very, very frustrating, 647 00:31:58,900 --> 00:32:01,650 but Faith needs you to be a good big brother. 648 00:32:01,780 --> 00:32:04,740 Well, me and her don't even like the same things. 649 00:32:04,860 --> 00:32:06,450 Well, that's okay. 650 00:32:06,570 --> 00:32:09,280 Maybe you can help her with things, you know? 651 00:32:09,410 --> 00:32:11,540 You could maybe teach her cursive, 652 00:32:11,660 --> 00:32:13,450 'cause you're really good at your letters. 653 00:32:13,580 --> 00:32:16,410 Or you could show her games on your iPad, 654 00:32:16,540 --> 00:32:19,040 or maybe show her pictures 655 00:32:19,170 --> 00:32:20,790 and tell her stories about our family. 656 00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:22,880 I can show her the place in the garage. 657 00:32:23,010 --> 00:32:25,630 Dad put a hole in the wall when we were moving in. 658 00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:27,970 Yes, yeah, y-y-you could, you could definitely 659 00:32:28,090 --> 00:32:29,470 show her that. 660 00:32:30,970 --> 00:32:32,640 You know what you need to do first, though? 661 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:34,100 What? 662 00:32:34,220 --> 00:32:36,060 You need to tell her that you're very sorry 663 00:32:36,180 --> 00:32:39,940 and ask her to forgive you for the things you said. 664 00:32:40,060 --> 00:32:41,730 Do you remember how to do that? 665 00:32:42,900 --> 00:32:44,360 What do you say first? 666 00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:46,990 I say sorry. 667 00:32:47,110 --> 00:32:48,780 You say, "I'm sorry for..." 668 00:32:48,910 --> 00:32:52,990 I'm sorry for what I said. 669 00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:54,750 I was wrong. 670 00:32:56,580 --> 00:33:01,040 -Will you... -Will you please forgive me? 671 00:33:01,170 --> 00:33:02,460 And then what do you do? 672 00:33:02,590 --> 00:33:05,550 -Then I give her a hug. -[laughs] Perfect. 673 00:33:05,670 --> 00:33:07,220 We'll do that first thing in the morning, okay? 674 00:33:07,340 --> 00:33:09,890 -Okay. -Night, little buddy. 675 00:33:10,010 --> 00:33:12,140 -Goodnight, mom. -Sleep good. 676 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:18,100 Josh, your shoes are by the door! hurry up! 677 00:33:18,230 --> 00:33:19,690 Sweetie, we gotta leave in five minutes. 678 00:33:19,810 --> 00:33:21,810 I've got an appointment at the office at 9:00. 679 00:33:21,940 --> 00:33:25,360 -Is your lunch almost packed? -Almost. 680 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,820 Who are you texting this early in the morning? 681 00:33:27,950 --> 00:33:31,450 -It's a friend. -And her name is? 682 00:33:31,570 --> 00:33:33,740 His name is Adam, Lauren's older brother. 683 00:33:36,660 --> 00:33:39,160 Hey, Adam can wait five minutes 684 00:33:39,290 --> 00:33:42,130 until your lunch is packed and we are in the car. 685 00:33:42,250 --> 00:33:44,500 Hey. Morning, baby. 686 00:33:44,630 --> 00:33:46,710 How you doing? Did you sleep good? 687 00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:48,590 Did you sleep good? Did you sleep good? 688 00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,010 Did you sleep good? [chuckles] 689 00:33:51,130 --> 00:33:52,220 Hey, sweetheart. 690 00:33:52,340 --> 00:33:53,800 -Hey, dad. -Hey, baby, I gotta run. 691 00:33:53,930 --> 00:33:55,390 Um, I know I said I'd pick up the kids later, 692 00:33:55,510 --> 00:33:57,180 but I'm-I'm probably gonna have to work late. 693 00:33:57,310 --> 00:33:58,600 -[Alice] Babe-- -I know. 694 00:33:58,730 --> 00:33:59,890 I'm finishing it, though, so this'll be 695 00:34:00,020 --> 00:34:01,480 the last time for a while. 696 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:03,650 Yeah, well, you said that last weekend. 697 00:34:04,980 --> 00:34:06,730 I mean it today. 698 00:34:06,860 --> 00:34:08,230 [Alice] Okay. Well, just be off tomorrow. 699 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:09,690 The girls are counting on you. 700 00:34:09,820 --> 00:34:13,030 Oh, I wouldn't miss the fair with my girls. 701 00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:14,950 -You excited? -Yeah! 702 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:17,120 Faith is coming? 703 00:34:17,240 --> 00:34:20,830 Yeah, dad and the girls at the fair. 704 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,500 It's gonna be great. What do you think, Faith? 705 00:34:23,630 --> 00:34:25,840 You think we should get Kate to ride the teacups with us? 706 00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:27,630 -Yeah. -You up for-- 707 00:34:27,750 --> 00:34:29,210 You know what, you guys can just 708 00:34:29,340 --> 00:34:30,590 go ride the teacups together. 709 00:34:30,720 --> 00:34:32,970 Um... I'm gonna 710 00:34:33,090 --> 00:34:34,970 just go with some friends from school. 711 00:34:35,100 --> 00:34:37,930 It's probably a better idea, anyway. 712 00:34:38,060 --> 00:34:39,890 Mom, I'll be in the car. 713 00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:43,940 What's that about? 714 00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:46,730 Teacups? 715 00:34:47,860 --> 00:34:50,360 She loves teacups. 716 00:34:50,490 --> 00:34:52,820 You realize that she is 12 now? 717 00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:57,580 Faith, come on. Let's-let's go. Come on, come on. 718 00:34:57,700 --> 00:34:59,580 Josh, we're in the car! 719 00:35:00,700 --> 00:35:03,790 [mellow music] 720 00:35:08,090 --> 00:35:11,130 [birds chirping] 721 00:35:25,850 --> 00:35:28,900 [cell phone ringing] 722 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:32,360 [Charlie] Yeah, I had 'em checked yesterday. 723 00:35:32,490 --> 00:35:34,110 They said they're fine. 724 00:35:34,240 --> 00:35:35,570 Yup, spare, too. 725 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,120 Yeah, I know. We can Skype. 726 00:35:39,240 --> 00:35:40,990 I'll be home in, like, 11 weeks. 727 00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:45,290 -Mm-hmm. -[water running] 728 00:35:45,420 --> 00:35:47,130 All right, you too. See you. 729 00:35:48,170 --> 00:35:51,760 -Was that dad? -Mm. Yup. 730 00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:54,050 Know, he tried to take a later flight so he could be here. 731 00:35:54,170 --> 00:35:55,760 No big deal. He was here for the party last night. 732 00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:57,340 Yeah, well, I can't believe that they wouldn't let him 733 00:35:57,470 --> 00:35:59,010 miss a meeting so that he could be here to see 734 00:35:59,140 --> 00:36:00,180 his firstborn son off to college. 735 00:36:00,300 --> 00:36:01,430 Mom, it's no big deal. 736 00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:03,520 Hey, you need help with your stuff? 737 00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:04,890 [Ronnie] Got it. 738 00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:23,250 You know, your dad and I keep thinking 739 00:36:23,370 --> 00:36:25,080 that Dunwood is a mistake. 740 00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:29,500 You had your choice of a dozen schools. I... 741 00:36:29,630 --> 00:36:31,590 I don't see why you had to pick the most extreme. 742 00:36:31,710 --> 00:36:34,420 Mom, look, I know this is hard for you, letting go, 743 00:36:34,550 --> 00:36:37,760 but you've done your job. You raised me, okay? 744 00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:39,390 I stayed out of trouble, I got the grades, 745 00:36:39,510 --> 00:36:42,890 I got the full scholarship, tuition, room and board. 746 00:36:43,010 --> 00:36:44,520 You did good, okay? 747 00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:57,700 -Where do you want these? -Um, passenger seat. 748 00:37:16,590 --> 00:37:19,680 [instrumental music] 749 00:37:27,020 --> 00:37:30,270 Hey, are you looking through all my stuff? 750 00:37:30,390 --> 00:37:32,940 I was just looking at your baby picture, and... 751 00:37:33,060 --> 00:37:35,570 It's just a book, okay? I mean, you... 752 00:37:35,690 --> 00:37:36,860 You can't really know what you believe 753 00:37:36,990 --> 00:37:38,610 until you've read all the sides. 754 00:37:38,740 --> 00:37:40,660 And he teaches at Dunwood? 755 00:37:43,490 --> 00:37:45,740 I'm not gonna do this again with you, okay? 756 00:37:45,870 --> 00:37:48,660 The decision is made! Classes start on Thursday. 757 00:37:48,790 --> 00:37:50,710 Would you let it go? 758 00:37:50,830 --> 00:37:54,540 -Ronnie, what are you-- -Mom, let it go! 759 00:37:54,670 --> 00:37:56,750 Okay. 760 00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:58,050 Do you have your registration and everything 761 00:37:58,170 --> 00:37:59,880 in your glove compartment? 762 00:38:03,930 --> 00:38:06,100 That belongs to Matt. He put it there the other night. 763 00:38:06,220 --> 00:38:09,350 He just asked me to keep it for a few days. 764 00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:11,640 And you were just going to drop it off by his house 765 00:38:11,770 --> 00:38:14,360 on your way out on Monday morning? 766 00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:15,650 Exactly, so-- 767 00:38:15,770 --> 00:38:17,940 You are not leaving this driveway 768 00:38:18,070 --> 00:38:19,990 with drugs in your car. 769 00:38:20,110 --> 00:38:22,490 Do you have anymore of this stuff in here? 770 00:38:29,910 --> 00:38:32,000 Are you done? 771 00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:34,330 When your father finds out about this... 772 00:38:34,460 --> 00:38:37,210 Yeah, okay, whatever. [chuckles] 773 00:38:39,340 --> 00:38:42,970 [sighs] Hey, you guys know where to find me, all right? 774 00:38:46,180 --> 00:38:48,010 Look me up sometime. 775 00:38:49,850 --> 00:38:53,020 Reed Hall. Room 517. 776 00:39:01,150 --> 00:39:02,570 Bye, mom. 777 00:39:05,490 --> 00:39:07,160 Close the door. 778 00:39:13,710 --> 00:39:15,540 Ronnie. Ronnie! 779 00:39:19,090 --> 00:39:22,130 [engine revving] 780 00:39:25,260 --> 00:39:28,350 [instrumental music] 781 00:39:48,330 --> 00:39:50,620 [Kate] I had fun, Mike. 782 00:39:50,740 --> 00:39:53,410 I did too, Kate. 783 00:39:53,540 --> 00:39:57,460 Uh, I should probably go before my parents suspect anything. 784 00:39:57,580 --> 00:40:01,590 Oh! Just stay a little while longer. 785 00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,430 Uh, I don't know, I just don't wanna get caught. 786 00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:09,930 Your parents are probably in bed. 787 00:40:12,350 --> 00:40:14,100 Uh, yeah. 788 00:40:14,230 --> 00:40:16,520 -Come on. -I just... 789 00:40:17,650 --> 00:40:19,360 [exhales] I should probably go. 790 00:40:22,110 --> 00:40:23,440 You know he hasn't lost his phone. 791 00:40:23,570 --> 00:40:26,030 He just doesn't wanna talk to us. 792 00:40:26,150 --> 00:40:28,110 It's been three days. 793 00:40:28,240 --> 00:40:29,700 He'll cool off and call us back. 794 00:40:29,820 --> 00:40:31,280 Yeah, well, I think he's an atheist. 795 00:40:31,410 --> 00:40:33,160 And it's not just about the book. 796 00:40:33,290 --> 00:40:35,290 -He's a teenager, he's confused. -[distant shouting] 797 00:40:35,410 --> 00:40:37,170 I've read all kinds of books when I was his age. 798 00:40:37,290 --> 00:40:38,710 [Kate] Help! 799 00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:42,420 You hear that? 800 00:40:49,010 --> 00:40:50,970 [Alice] Hon, should I, should I call the police? 801 00:40:51,100 --> 00:40:52,640 No, I'll check it out. 802 00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:55,850 [intense music] 803 00:41:04,110 --> 00:41:06,240 [Kate] Mike, let go! 804 00:41:19,170 --> 00:41:22,460 [Kate] Please, let go! Let go! You're hurting my arm! 805 00:41:22,590 --> 00:41:24,340 Please... [grunts] 806 00:41:25,550 --> 00:41:27,380 [Charlie] Hey! 807 00:41:27,510 --> 00:41:28,720 -[engine revving] -[tires screeching] 808 00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:30,180 Hey! 809 00:41:33,050 --> 00:41:35,270 -Kate! -[panting] 810 00:41:35,390 --> 00:41:36,520 What happened? You all right? 811 00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:37,980 -I'm fine. -You okay? Who was that? 812 00:41:38,100 --> 00:41:39,480 -Yes, I'm fine. -Who was that? 813 00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:41,690 Did he hurt you? 814 00:41:41,810 --> 00:41:44,020 Hey, look at me. Are you okay? 815 00:41:44,150 --> 00:41:46,400 -Are you okay? -Yes, I'm fine, dad. 816 00:41:46,530 --> 00:41:48,030 -No, you're not. -Yes. [sobs] 817 00:41:48,150 --> 00:41:49,860 Come here, come here. 818 00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:58,460 [sobbing] 819 00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:04,000 -[door opens] -[footsteps approaching] 820 00:42:04,130 --> 00:42:06,550 Honey? What's going on? 821 00:42:06,710 --> 00:42:09,340 Katie? Katie, what are you doing out? 822 00:42:09,470 --> 00:42:11,840 -Sit down. -What is going on? 823 00:42:11,970 --> 00:42:14,850 Sit down. Answer your mother. 824 00:42:17,350 --> 00:42:19,520 -Kate? -I snuck out on a date. 825 00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:20,770 -What else? -Excuse me? 826 00:42:20,890 --> 00:42:22,440 What else happened? 827 00:42:24,310 --> 00:42:25,610 She snuck out on a date with a boy 828 00:42:25,730 --> 00:42:27,320 who pushed her out of his car. 829 00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:30,650 He did what? Who is this person? What... 830 00:42:30,780 --> 00:42:33,700 -You don't know him. -Oh, I'm gonna know him. 831 00:42:33,820 --> 00:42:35,580 That is not what I asked, missy. 832 00:42:35,700 --> 00:42:38,290 Who is he? 833 00:42:38,410 --> 00:42:40,080 -Katherine. -His name, his name is Mike! 834 00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:41,710 He's in college. 835 00:42:41,830 --> 00:42:44,130 -College? -[Faith] Mommy, I need water. 836 00:42:44,250 --> 00:42:46,290 -Katie, he's in college? -[Faith coughs] 837 00:42:46,420 --> 00:42:47,880 Katie, I am not happy about this. 838 00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:49,760 -I need medicine. -Well, you're not through. 839 00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:51,380 -Come on. Where's your cup? -[Faith coughs] 840 00:42:51,510 --> 00:42:52,930 [Alice] I had your medicine right by your bed. 841 00:42:53,050 --> 00:42:54,470 -Did you not take it? -[Faith] It's gone. 842 00:42:54,590 --> 00:42:56,140 [Faith] I don't know where it is. 843 00:42:56,260 --> 00:42:58,430 This isn't the first time you've done this, is it? 844 00:42:59,850 --> 00:43:01,020 No. 845 00:43:01,140 --> 00:43:03,350 Well, it's the last time. 846 00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:05,860 You're grounded. 847 00:43:05,980 --> 00:43:08,400 Your mom and I will talk about for how long. 848 00:43:08,530 --> 00:43:10,150 Typical. 849 00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:13,610 -What did you say? -Look, Mike's a good guy. 850 00:43:13,740 --> 00:43:15,320 This is the first time anything has happened. 851 00:43:15,450 --> 00:43:19,240 Good guys don't push people out of their car, Katie. 852 00:43:19,370 --> 00:43:22,580 Yeah, well, I can take care of myself. 853 00:43:24,790 --> 00:43:27,080 Really? Like tonight? 854 00:43:27,210 --> 00:43:28,670 -Yeah. -Well done. 855 00:43:28,790 --> 00:43:30,590 Like tonight, and like every other night 856 00:43:30,710 --> 00:43:32,760 when you're at work and mom's at home 857 00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:36,220 taking care of Faith and Josh by herself. I'm fine. 858 00:43:36,340 --> 00:43:40,680 I picked you up off the sidewalk, Kate! 859 00:43:40,810 --> 00:43:43,270 Does that sound fine to you? 860 00:43:45,020 --> 00:43:46,400 You know what, this is going nowhere. 861 00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:47,770 -Sit down! -Can you just leave me alone? 862 00:43:47,900 --> 00:43:49,230 I'm not done talking to you! 863 00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:51,320 Just leave me alone! 864 00:43:52,150 --> 00:43:53,740 [Kate grunts] 865 00:43:56,410 --> 00:43:57,450 [Alice] Katherine, come here. [Kate] No. 866 00:43:57,570 --> 00:43:58,820 [Alice] You kn-- [Kate] No! 867 00:43:58,950 --> 00:44:00,370 I don't wanna talk to you right now. 868 00:44:00,490 --> 00:44:01,740 Don't care if you don't wanna talk to me. 869 00:44:01,870 --> 00:44:03,160 Who is this person? How did you... 870 00:44:03,290 --> 00:44:04,540 [Kate] Don't you ever talk to me again! 871 00:44:04,660 --> 00:44:05,870 [Alice] Katherine! [Kate] Oh, my God! 872 00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:07,290 -Don't talk to me! -[door slams] 873 00:44:07,420 --> 00:44:09,500 [somber music] 874 00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:15,340 [Charlie] How come I didn't know about this boy? 875 00:44:17,470 --> 00:44:19,510 Because we've been giving her space. 876 00:44:21,220 --> 00:44:22,930 I feel like all I've heard for the past two years, 877 00:44:23,060 --> 00:44:24,230 "Mom, gimme space." 878 00:44:24,350 --> 00:44:26,440 Yeah, well, look where space got us. 879 00:44:28,310 --> 00:44:30,440 I just wanna know, how did I not... 880 00:44:32,020 --> 00:44:33,980 We need help, Charlie. 881 00:44:34,110 --> 00:44:35,490 I can fix this. 882 00:44:35,610 --> 00:44:37,240 Okay, then, what's your plan? 883 00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:40,530 I'm gonna spend some time with her. 884 00:44:40,660 --> 00:44:44,790 Some one-on-one time, some real time, with Kate... 885 00:44:45,870 --> 00:44:47,710 and the other kids. 886 00:44:47,830 --> 00:44:51,500 I can, you know, really make an effort, which I haven't. 887 00:44:51,630 --> 00:44:54,260 -Then I can cut back. -Babe, we've tried that. 888 00:44:54,380 --> 00:44:55,510 Please, we need something that's gonna 889 00:44:55,630 --> 00:44:56,510 last more than two weeks. 890 00:44:56,630 --> 00:44:59,430 It will. I'm serious. 891 00:44:59,550 --> 00:45:01,550 Honey, the only reason that Kate is still here 892 00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:04,680 is because she is too young to leave. 893 00:45:04,810 --> 00:45:06,600 She's gonna brush you off just like she does me. 894 00:45:06,730 --> 00:45:10,400 She wants less of us in her life, not more. 895 00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:12,900 Honey, we have got to get help. 896 00:45:13,020 --> 00:45:15,280 We have two more coming up after her. 897 00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:17,030 And she's following right after Ronnie, 898 00:45:17,150 --> 00:45:19,360 and they're gonna follow right after her. 899 00:45:25,580 --> 00:45:26,910 [Charlie] Started drifting away and, 900 00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:29,040 and doing his own thing, 901 00:45:29,170 --> 00:45:31,750 and I just thought it was normal 902 00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,420 young adolescence stuff. 903 00:45:36,010 --> 00:45:37,720 I know our jobs as parents is to make sure 904 00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:39,840 our kids are well taken care of 905 00:45:39,970 --> 00:45:41,140 and, and keep them out of trouble. 906 00:45:41,260 --> 00:45:42,680 -Right? -Yeah. 907 00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:45,260 Teresa and I began to realize that maybe 908 00:45:45,390 --> 00:45:47,520 we had our priorities all wrong. 909 00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:50,060 Look, we were looking at the spiritual development 910 00:45:50,190 --> 00:45:52,360 of our children as only a part of their lives, 911 00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:54,650 but not the centerpiece. 912 00:45:54,770 --> 00:45:56,610 Man, we cared more about how they acted than we did 913 00:45:56,730 --> 00:46:00,030 about teaching them what loving and trusting 914 00:46:00,150 --> 00:46:03,700 and walking with Jesus every day looks like. 915 00:46:03,830 --> 00:46:05,910 What they learned from us was 916 00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:08,830 how to stay away from sin. 917 00:46:08,950 --> 00:46:12,170 Don't mess up, and if you do, don't, don't, don't tell anybody 918 00:46:12,290 --> 00:46:14,420 or else you'd be in big trouble. 919 00:46:16,380 --> 00:46:17,800 Man, we taught them how to hide their sin 920 00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:19,720 rather than confess it. 921 00:46:22,510 --> 00:46:24,850 They never saw us confessing anything. 922 00:46:27,390 --> 00:46:29,230 I can't get my kids to talk to me, 923 00:46:29,350 --> 00:46:31,690 let alone confess anything, so-- 924 00:46:31,810 --> 00:46:34,310 Here is your catfish and fries for you, 925 00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:36,400 and catfish and slaw for you. 926 00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:37,940 You guys need anything else? 927 00:46:38,070 --> 00:46:40,150 -We're good, thank you. -Okay, enjoy. 928 00:46:41,450 --> 00:46:43,200 Teresa and I were talking the other night, 929 00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:46,620 and she thinks that, we think that maybe it'd be a good idea 930 00:46:46,740 --> 00:46:48,910 for the, uh, four of us to get together 931 00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:51,830 and go to that new parenting series at church. 932 00:46:53,750 --> 00:46:55,040 -I just-- -I know. 933 00:46:55,170 --> 00:46:56,250 I know we'll probably be the oldest ones 934 00:46:56,380 --> 00:46:57,290 in the group, all right? 935 00:46:57,420 --> 00:46:58,460 But it can't hurt to sit in 936 00:46:58,590 --> 00:47:01,260 on a few sessions, now can it? 937 00:47:01,380 --> 00:47:03,220 [sighs] 938 00:47:04,550 --> 00:47:05,850 Okay. 939 00:47:05,970 --> 00:47:08,310 -Yeah? -Yeah, I'll do it. Let's do it. 940 00:47:08,430 --> 00:47:10,730 Good. Good. 941 00:47:10,850 --> 00:47:12,560 Now, now can you pray over the food 942 00:47:12,690 --> 00:47:13,600 so I can eat my catfish, please? 943 00:47:13,730 --> 00:47:16,520 -Sure. -[laughs] 944 00:47:16,650 --> 00:47:20,740 Uh, God, thank you for the food 945 00:47:20,860 --> 00:47:22,650 and for friends... 946 00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:25,820 and our kids. 947 00:47:30,240 --> 00:47:32,160 Thanks for doing this. 948 00:47:35,630 --> 00:47:38,040 -Hey! -Excuse me. 949 00:47:38,170 --> 00:47:40,250 [indistinct chatter] 950 00:47:45,510 --> 00:47:48,010 [man] Okay, come on in. It's getting started. 951 00:47:48,140 --> 00:47:50,350 We wanna welcome you to the Art of Parenting 952 00:47:50,470 --> 00:47:52,730 video series, presented by Family Life. 953 00:47:52,850 --> 00:47:54,480 Here's what the schedule's gonna look like. 954 00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:55,940 We're gonna watch a video for about a half... 955 00:47:56,060 --> 00:47:58,230 Hey, here we go. 956 00:47:58,360 --> 00:48:00,730 [man] ...and we'll break out into some mini-sessions. 957 00:48:00,860 --> 00:48:03,900 I think most parents in America say, 958 00:48:04,030 --> 00:48:05,320 "I want my kids to be happy" 959 00:48:05,450 --> 00:48:09,030 and, or, "I want them to be successful." 960 00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:10,700 [woman on video] And I feel like, oh, my gosh, 961 00:48:10,830 --> 00:48:12,370 that's not good enough. 962 00:48:12,500 --> 00:48:15,870 Happiness is just an emotion that comes and goes. 963 00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:17,420 [man on video] What does happiness look like? 964 00:48:17,540 --> 00:48:20,460 Um, it's kind of difficult to answer. 965 00:48:20,590 --> 00:48:23,670 [instrumental music] 966 00:48:45,780 --> 00:48:48,820 [music continues] 967 00:49:02,090 --> 00:49:04,300 Kate, can you come down here for a minute? 968 00:49:04,420 --> 00:49:06,420 [Kate] Yeah. Uh, one sec. 969 00:49:11,260 --> 00:49:13,390 -Yeah, what's up? -Have a seat. 970 00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:28,700 Uh, okay. [clears throat] 971 00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:35,240 Well, your mom and I, 972 00:49:35,370 --> 00:49:37,290 um, have come to realize 973 00:49:37,410 --> 00:49:41,830 that our faith and believing in God 974 00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:44,210 needs to be more 975 00:49:44,340 --> 00:49:46,260 than just going to church on Sundays 976 00:49:46,380 --> 00:49:48,800 or praying before we go to sleep. 977 00:49:48,930 --> 00:49:53,350 That God doesn't just need to be a part of our life, 978 00:49:53,470 --> 00:49:55,720 but that He needs to be the center of it. 979 00:49:55,850 --> 00:49:57,810 What does that mean? 980 00:49:57,930 --> 00:50:01,440 That's a good question, and, honestly, um, 981 00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:03,900 we're still trying to figure that out, too. 982 00:50:04,020 --> 00:50:06,530 Well, I think, for most of our marriage 983 00:50:06,650 --> 00:50:08,610 we have, we've tried to do the right thing, 984 00:50:08,740 --> 00:50:13,160 and we figured that if we were, we were doing that, 985 00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:17,080 if everything was going okay, that, that we were on track. 986 00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:18,660 Yeah, we... 987 00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:23,120 We just, w-we thought we just had to do our best 988 00:50:23,250 --> 00:50:26,920 and turn to God when things aren't working 989 00:50:27,050 --> 00:50:28,670 or you get stuck. 990 00:50:30,170 --> 00:50:32,970 But that's not the way it is. 991 00:50:33,090 --> 00:50:37,770 We've been learning a lot about this book, The Bible, 992 00:50:37,890 --> 00:50:41,850 and that this is what God wants us to spend time in every day, 993 00:50:41,980 --> 00:50:44,940 so that we can learn more about Him. 994 00:50:45,060 --> 00:50:47,860 This is how He teaches us about Himself, 995 00:50:47,980 --> 00:50:50,990 and this is how we learn His plan for us. 996 00:50:52,490 --> 00:50:54,570 Jesus said that we... 997 00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:58,580 we need God's word more than we need food. 998 00:50:58,700 --> 00:51:00,790 -Nuh-uh. -Yeah. 999 00:51:00,910 --> 00:51:04,630 Yeah, I know, it's-it's, it's hard to believe, but it's true. 1000 00:51:04,750 --> 00:51:06,920 You know, our souls 1001 00:51:07,040 --> 00:51:09,800 hunger for these words 1002 00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:12,720 the way that our body hungers for food. 1003 00:51:15,430 --> 00:51:18,430 I want us, as a family, 1004 00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:22,100 to start spending time every single day 1005 00:51:22,230 --> 00:51:23,730 reading the Bible together. 1006 00:51:23,850 --> 00:51:26,150 I try to read my Bible sometimes, 1007 00:51:26,270 --> 00:51:27,560 but there's a lot of words in there 1008 00:51:27,690 --> 00:51:29,320 that I don't know what they mean. 1009 00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:30,690 [laughs] I unders... 1010 00:51:30,820 --> 00:51:32,110 You know, there's a lot of words in here 1011 00:51:32,240 --> 00:51:33,400 that I don't know what they mean either. 1012 00:51:33,530 --> 00:51:34,700 But I bet if we dive in together, 1013 00:51:34,820 --> 00:51:36,200 we can figure it out. 1014 00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:37,700 Okay? I tell you what. 1015 00:51:37,830 --> 00:51:41,160 Why don't we start, why don't we start now? 1016 00:51:41,290 --> 00:51:42,540 Go get your Bibles and we'll dive in 1017 00:51:42,660 --> 00:51:43,830 and just read a few versus, 1018 00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:46,080 and-and, and go from there, okay? 1019 00:51:46,210 --> 00:51:47,330 Go ahead. 1020 00:51:57,640 --> 00:51:59,810 Well, we'll see if this does any good. 1021 00:52:01,140 --> 00:52:02,600 Hon, you're doing great. 1022 00:52:04,140 --> 00:52:06,690 We just have to remember that our job is to be faithful. 1023 00:52:06,810 --> 00:52:08,650 Change is up to God. 1024 00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:11,980 Yeah. 1025 00:52:12,110 --> 00:52:14,400 -[instrumental music playing] -[knocking on door] 1026 00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:17,490 [Charlie] Hey, you got a minute? 1027 00:52:17,610 --> 00:52:18,740 Mm-hmm. 1028 00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:21,490 [music stops] 1029 00:52:30,630 --> 00:52:31,960 [Charlie sighs] 1030 00:52:33,670 --> 00:52:35,170 Kate, I messed up. 1031 00:52:36,630 --> 00:52:40,220 Um, I haven't been as involved in your life 1032 00:52:40,350 --> 00:52:42,430 as I should have been. 1033 00:52:48,060 --> 00:52:51,820 You have grown into a beautiful young woman. 1034 00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:57,910 And somewhere along the way I quit being your dad. 1035 00:52:58,030 --> 00:53:00,620 [mellow music] 1036 00:53:02,450 --> 00:53:06,250 You know, when you were little, [sighs] I knew what to do. 1037 00:53:06,370 --> 00:53:09,710 We-we would go get ice cream, 1038 00:53:09,830 --> 00:53:12,920 I would just push you on the swing 1039 00:53:13,050 --> 00:53:16,800 while you said, "Higher, daddy, higher." 1040 00:53:21,850 --> 00:53:24,350 And then you stopped... 1041 00:53:24,470 --> 00:53:26,730 wanting to go to the park, you know? 1042 00:53:30,060 --> 00:53:33,360 And I guess I just, I starting thinking maybe my job was over. 1043 00:53:37,610 --> 00:53:39,160 That was wrong. 1044 00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:43,280 That was really wrong. 1045 00:53:52,540 --> 00:53:53,840 [Kate sniffles] 1046 00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:01,220 You were on that sidewalk the other night... 1047 00:54:03,470 --> 00:54:05,140 because of me. 1048 00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:08,350 I wasn't here for you... 1049 00:54:09,810 --> 00:54:11,900 and I stopped protecting you. 1050 00:54:18,190 --> 00:54:20,280 Will you forgive me? 1051 00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:22,490 I'm so sorry. 1052 00:54:23,360 --> 00:54:25,160 I forgive you, dad. 1053 00:54:36,090 --> 00:54:38,300 I have something to say to you, too. 1054 00:54:39,090 --> 00:54:41,380 -Okay. -Um, I... 1055 00:54:44,470 --> 00:54:46,930 I'm sorry I snuck out with Mike. 1056 00:54:48,850 --> 00:54:51,690 I knew that it was wrong, but I just, 1057 00:54:51,810 --> 00:54:56,690 [sighs] it was nice to have a guy paying attention to me... 1058 00:54:59,150 --> 00:55:01,240 making me feel special. 1059 00:55:03,570 --> 00:55:05,870 I know it caused you guys a lot of stress. 1060 00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:13,170 Can you forgive me, too? 1061 00:55:14,330 --> 00:55:15,750 Of course. 1062 00:55:23,550 --> 00:55:25,720 -Buds? -Buds. 1063 00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:27,050 -Pals? -Pals. 1064 00:55:27,180 --> 00:55:28,510 BFFs? 1065 00:55:28,640 --> 00:55:31,350 Okay, nobody says that anymore. 1066 00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:33,600 What do they say now? 1067 00:55:33,730 --> 00:55:36,560 Uh, I don't know, like, "Dudes." 1068 00:55:36,690 --> 00:55:37,940 -I don't know. [laughs] -Dudes? 1069 00:55:38,070 --> 00:55:40,190 -Don't call me that. -[laughs] 1070 00:55:42,530 --> 00:55:44,240 Ice cream date? 1071 00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:45,570 -Mm. -Okay. 1072 00:55:45,700 --> 00:55:47,410 I'll have to check my calendar. 1073 00:55:47,530 --> 00:55:49,080 Gotta check your calendar? 1074 00:55:49,200 --> 00:55:51,490 [Kate] Yeah. [laughs] [Charlie] Okay. Pencil me in. 1075 00:55:56,750 --> 00:55:58,250 Here, try this. 1076 00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:00,130 Okay. 1077 00:56:03,800 --> 00:56:05,260 -That's amazing. -Thanks. 1078 00:56:05,380 --> 00:56:08,010 Yeah, no, I'm actually, I'm really impressed. 1079 00:56:08,140 --> 00:56:11,680 I still need to try it with less garlic, I think. 1080 00:56:11,810 --> 00:56:13,730 Or add it in earlier. 1081 00:56:15,020 --> 00:56:17,400 -How old are you? -I'm ten, dad. 1082 00:56:17,520 --> 00:56:20,400 You're ten? Oh, that's right, that's right. 1083 00:56:20,520 --> 00:56:22,990 Because you're talking like you're 35. 1084 00:56:23,110 --> 00:56:25,030 You know, I think we should try to find a way for you 1085 00:56:25,150 --> 00:56:26,110 to make some money doing this. 1086 00:56:26,240 --> 00:56:27,780 -For real? -Yeah. 1087 00:56:27,910 --> 00:56:30,030 -How? -Well, I have an idea. 1088 00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:32,120 You know how mom goes to Bible study... 1089 00:56:32,240 --> 00:56:34,500 -On Monday nights at the church? -Mm-hmm. 1090 00:56:34,620 --> 00:56:36,460 What if you made dinner for the family every Monday? 1091 00:56:36,580 --> 00:56:38,130 -That'd be awesome! -Yeah? 1092 00:56:38,250 --> 00:56:39,420 Now we'd have to plan ahead, make sure 1093 00:56:39,540 --> 00:56:41,250 you have what you need. 1094 00:56:41,380 --> 00:56:44,710 But I'm thinking, if you cook for everybody 1095 00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:46,680 and then you clean everything up, 1096 00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:49,180 I'd be willing to give you 1097 00:56:49,300 --> 00:56:50,930 five dollars a week to do that. 1098 00:56:51,050 --> 00:56:52,600 -How about ten dollars a week? -[laughs] 1099 00:56:52,720 --> 00:56:53,970 Are you negotiating with me already? 1100 00:56:54,100 --> 00:56:55,520 -Yeah. -No, no, no. 1101 00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:56,690 I'm gonna stick at five. 1102 00:56:56,810 --> 00:56:58,480 -Okay. -For now. 1103 00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:01,900 But if you made extra, then we could take some 1104 00:57:02,020 --> 00:57:03,650 to Mr. McBride from church as well. 1105 00:57:03,780 --> 00:57:05,900 I bet he'd love to have a meal cooked from you, okay? 1106 00:57:06,030 --> 00:57:07,110 -Mm-hmm. -That sound good? 1107 00:57:07,240 --> 00:57:08,860 -Yeah. -Yeah? Are you excited? 1108 00:57:08,990 --> 00:57:10,120 -Yeah. -Okay. 1109 00:57:10,240 --> 00:57:13,040 Keep going, I wanna eat more. 1110 00:57:14,370 --> 00:57:15,540 Good, man. 1111 00:57:16,580 --> 00:57:18,170 Number five, 1112 00:57:18,290 --> 00:57:19,880 "What have you done to show your children 1113 00:57:20,000 --> 00:57:23,090 that they are special and unconditionally loved?" 1114 00:57:23,210 --> 00:57:27,050 Hm, well, I've been spending some time with Josh, 1115 00:57:27,170 --> 00:57:29,010 helping him with his cooking. 1116 00:57:29,130 --> 00:57:31,260 He's pretty good. 1117 00:57:31,390 --> 00:57:33,060 How's it been for you? 1118 00:57:33,180 --> 00:57:36,810 Hard... at first. 1119 00:57:36,930 --> 00:57:38,600 You know, he, um... 1120 00:57:38,730 --> 00:57:40,520 I guess I never really looked at cooking 1121 00:57:40,650 --> 00:57:42,810 as something that men did. 1122 00:57:42,940 --> 00:57:46,860 But I-I am learning that I can't make him... 1123 00:57:46,990 --> 00:57:48,990 what I want him to be. 1124 00:57:49,110 --> 00:57:50,910 Well, how's it been for him? 1125 00:57:51,030 --> 00:57:53,160 He's, he's really opening up. 1126 00:57:54,740 --> 00:57:56,450 It's been really good. 1127 00:57:59,460 --> 00:58:02,540 [instrumental music] 1128 00:58:14,470 --> 00:58:15,810 What are you working on? 1129 00:58:15,930 --> 00:58:18,140 -Katie's arrow. -Hm. 1130 00:58:19,230 --> 00:58:20,810 Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. 1131 00:58:20,940 --> 00:58:23,730 You're not gonna, you're not gonna copy off of my work. 1132 00:58:23,860 --> 00:58:25,230 I thought we were supposed to do this together. 1133 00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:26,940 Uh, ultimately, yes, but I would really, 1134 00:58:27,070 --> 00:58:30,320 I think that we should each do our own first draft. 1135 00:58:30,450 --> 00:58:32,240 And I see what you're, I see what you're doing here. 1136 00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:34,820 Whatever, whatever you come up with, I'll be so fine with. 1137 00:58:34,950 --> 00:58:36,450 Mm-hmm. Yes, but that's... 1138 00:58:36,580 --> 00:58:38,250 You're not gonna get out of your homework that easy. 1139 00:58:38,370 --> 00:58:41,160 -Gosh, you're no fun. -Ah, I'm fun sometimes. 1140 00:58:42,870 --> 00:58:44,460 [Alice] I wrote that she's considerate and sensitive, 1141 00:58:44,590 --> 00:58:46,250 and something that I want to work on her with 1142 00:58:46,380 --> 00:58:48,420 is cultivating a sense of belonging. 1143 00:58:48,550 --> 00:58:50,840 [Charlie] I have that Faith is inventive 1144 00:58:50,970 --> 00:58:53,340 and persistent. 1145 00:58:53,470 --> 00:58:55,260 [Alice] That she is. [Charlie] She is. 1146 00:58:55,390 --> 00:58:59,980 ♪ Oh it's the most important battle we will fight ♪ 1147 00:59:00,100 --> 00:59:02,440 ♪ We've gotta give 'em more than words ♪ 1148 00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:04,650 ♪ Let's give our lives ♪ 1149 00:59:04,770 --> 00:59:07,360 ♪ Oh it takes patience it takes courage ♪ 1150 00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:09,690 ♪ It takes heart ♪ 1151 00:59:09,820 --> 00:59:14,530 ♪ We may be broken but it's not too late to start ♪ 1152 00:59:14,660 --> 00:59:18,330 ♪ Pray on through this crazy life ♪ 1153 00:59:18,450 --> 00:59:22,120 ♪ Then watch them fly straight to ♪ 1154 00:59:22,250 --> 00:59:27,000 ♪ The target that we're aiming for it's you ♪ 1155 00:59:27,130 --> 00:59:30,130 ♪ The target that we're aiming for is you... ♪ 1156 00:59:30,260 --> 00:59:33,970 Okay. Science, though... Mm! 1157 00:59:34,090 --> 00:59:37,010 ♪ To the ends of the earth they will take this life ♪ 1158 00:59:37,140 --> 00:59:38,930 I'm not gonna let a video teach you how to tie a tie. 1159 00:59:39,060 --> 00:59:43,940 ♪ Like a torch that's flying through the darkest night ♪ 1160 00:59:44,060 --> 00:59:46,360 ♪ Lift them up pull back the bow ♪ 1161 00:59:46,480 --> 00:59:50,730 ♪ Say a prayer and let 'em go like arrows... ♪ 1162 00:59:53,650 --> 00:59:56,280 Oh, thank you very much, I appreciate it. 1163 00:59:56,410 --> 00:59:59,080 You're welcome. Have a good afternoon. 1164 00:59:59,200 --> 01:00:02,290 I have some news for you. 1165 01:00:02,410 --> 01:00:06,500 [gasps] Kate, Kate, Kate! Oh, my goodness! 1166 01:00:06,630 --> 01:00:08,080 -Honey! -I know! 1167 01:00:08,210 --> 01:00:10,170 -Isn't it beautiful? -It's beautiful. 1168 01:00:10,300 --> 01:00:11,920 ♪ To the ends of the earth... ♪ 1169 01:00:12,050 --> 01:00:14,680 [chef] Let's go, six and four and five... 1170 01:00:14,800 --> 01:00:16,180 [Josh] Yes, chef. 1171 01:00:16,300 --> 01:00:18,220 ♪ Through the darkest night ♪ 1172 01:00:18,350 --> 01:00:20,510 There you go, yeah, there you go. 1173 01:00:20,640 --> 01:00:22,350 A little higher, a little higher, right there. 1174 01:00:22,470 --> 01:00:24,350 There it is, there you go, very nice. Good job, Josh. 1175 01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:29,190 ♪ To the ends of the earth they will take this life ♪ 1176 01:00:29,310 --> 01:00:33,360 ♪ Like a torch that's flying through the darkest night ♪ 1177 01:00:33,490 --> 01:00:36,570 ♪ Send them off like arrows ♪♪ 1178 01:00:43,700 --> 01:00:46,960 So, uh, your handsome son is nowhere to be found, 1179 01:00:47,080 --> 01:00:49,630 so I guess you have to call me in on my day off? 1180 01:00:49,750 --> 01:00:50,790 Kenneth! 1181 01:00:50,920 --> 01:00:52,300 -How's it going? -It's good. 1182 01:00:52,420 --> 01:00:54,550 No, Josh actually is doing all of the food 1183 01:00:54,670 --> 01:00:55,720 for the wedding. 1184 01:00:55,840 --> 01:00:57,130 -Is that right? -That's right. 1185 01:00:57,260 --> 01:00:59,220 [laughs] That's great. 1186 01:00:59,340 --> 01:01:01,850 He's just making pasta, but he's very excited about it. 1187 01:01:01,970 --> 01:01:05,020 Yeah, you know, he's always been the best cook 1188 01:01:05,140 --> 01:01:06,560 out of both of our families. 1189 01:01:06,690 --> 01:01:08,560 I don't know why I didn't see that. 1190 01:01:08,690 --> 01:01:11,270 -Don't tell Teresa, though. -[laughs] Okay. 1191 01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:15,610 I heard you got three summers left with him. 1192 01:01:16,570 --> 01:01:18,360 Not enough time, if you ask me. 1193 01:01:18,490 --> 01:01:21,700 -Zero left with Kate. -Yes, thank you. 1194 01:01:21,820 --> 01:01:24,790 [laughs] Well, you, at least you got two extra summers 1195 01:01:24,910 --> 01:01:26,790 out of it with her. 1196 01:01:26,910 --> 01:01:28,920 God has restored beyond repair. 1197 01:01:29,040 --> 01:01:31,330 That, heh, is His specialty. 1198 01:01:31,460 --> 01:01:33,380 [Charlie] You're telling me. -[laughs] 1199 01:01:33,500 --> 01:01:36,590 [instrumental music] 1200 01:01:40,430 --> 01:01:43,180 -Hey, sweetheart. -Hey. Get everything unloaded? 1201 01:01:44,600 --> 01:01:48,350 Unloaded, set up. Looks good. 1202 01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:49,600 Thanks. 1203 01:01:54,780 --> 01:01:56,820 Hey, I wanna show you something. 1204 01:01:58,650 --> 01:01:59,820 [sniffles] 1205 01:02:02,320 --> 01:02:04,410 Kate was the one who found it. 1206 01:02:08,580 --> 01:02:11,630 [music continues] 1207 01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:18,010 -Is that Ronnie? -[Alice] Yeah. 1208 01:02:22,220 --> 01:02:24,300 Who is the little guy? 1209 01:02:26,560 --> 01:02:28,140 -Is that-- -He looks just like you. 1210 01:02:28,270 --> 01:02:30,350 [voice cracking] Is that his? 1211 01:02:37,530 --> 01:02:39,320 He has a son? 1212 01:02:42,950 --> 01:02:46,120 Well, what else do you know besides this picture? 1213 01:02:47,450 --> 01:02:49,200 [Alice] Kate was looking around, and, um, 1214 01:02:49,330 --> 01:02:51,210 from what she could tell, it looked like Ronnie didn't even 1215 01:02:51,330 --> 01:02:52,920 know he was a dad in, 1216 01:02:53,040 --> 01:02:55,840 until, like, a couple of weeks ago. 1217 01:02:55,960 --> 01:02:59,300 Looks like the mom dropped the little guy off with him 1218 01:02:59,420 --> 01:03:00,720 at his place. 1219 01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:03,510 -Where's that? -Someplace in Oregon. 1220 01:03:04,850 --> 01:03:06,890 Did you call? Did you call him? 1221 01:03:07,010 --> 01:03:09,560 [Alice] Yeah, I left a message. -What'd you say? 1222 01:03:09,680 --> 01:03:11,140 Nothing, nothing out of the ordinary. 1223 01:03:11,270 --> 01:03:13,350 You know, I didn't, I didn't let on, uh, 1224 01:03:13,480 --> 01:03:15,610 that I had seen a picture or anything. 1225 01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:22,570 Hon, are you okay? 1226 01:03:22,700 --> 01:03:25,370 -I have a grandson. -[chuckles] 1227 01:03:25,490 --> 01:03:26,700 [sniffles] 1228 01:03:28,370 --> 01:03:30,040 We're grandparents. 1229 01:03:31,450 --> 01:03:34,500 [sighs] Those are the only pictures that we have. 1230 01:03:34,620 --> 01:03:37,380 A-any reason to think that he will be... 1231 01:03:37,500 --> 01:03:39,710 Is he gonna be there... 1232 01:03:39,840 --> 01:03:42,090 at the wedding, do you think? 1233 01:03:42,220 --> 01:03:44,180 No. 1234 01:03:44,300 --> 01:03:46,800 No, I, I don't think so. 1235 01:03:46,930 --> 01:03:50,010 [instrumental music] 1236 01:03:51,180 --> 01:03:52,520 Hey. 1237 01:04:01,940 --> 01:04:03,400 [exhales sharply] 1238 01:04:05,610 --> 01:04:06,910 Father... 1239 01:04:09,660 --> 01:04:11,240 [sniffles] we pray for our, 1240 01:04:11,370 --> 01:04:14,370 we pray for our boy. 1241 01:04:14,500 --> 01:04:16,960 We don't know where he is, Father, but you do. 1242 01:04:18,500 --> 01:04:22,460 And, God, we thank you for the blessing of a grandson. 1243 01:04:24,380 --> 01:04:26,180 A grandson. 1244 01:04:26,300 --> 01:04:28,760 And we pray that you will protect him... 1245 01:04:30,100 --> 01:04:33,180 from any harm or evil... 1246 01:04:34,680 --> 01:04:37,190 that may come his way, God, somehow... 1247 01:04:37,310 --> 01:04:38,650 [whispering] 1248 01:04:41,320 --> 01:04:44,860 somehow, that he will come to know you at a young age, 1249 01:04:44,990 --> 01:04:47,700 that he will learn to love you and to walk with you 1250 01:04:47,820 --> 01:04:51,830 and to trust you with his whole life. 1251 01:04:56,250 --> 01:05:00,670 Father, we pray again for our boy, Ronnie, Father. 1252 01:05:02,460 --> 01:05:03,960 My boy. 1253 01:05:07,430 --> 01:05:10,680 Bring him home... Father. 1254 01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:12,510 Bring him home. 1255 01:05:14,470 --> 01:05:16,770 Help him see... 1256 01:05:16,890 --> 01:05:20,360 the folly of his sin, Father, 1257 01:05:20,480 --> 01:05:24,070 and the reality of your love 1258 01:05:24,190 --> 01:05:26,280 and the reality of our love. 1259 01:05:30,160 --> 01:05:32,410 It's in your son's name we pray. 1260 01:05:33,740 --> 01:05:34,870 Amen. 1261 01:05:35,830 --> 01:05:37,370 [whispers] Amen. 1262 01:05:38,580 --> 01:05:40,960 -We have a grandson! -[laughs] 1263 01:05:42,250 --> 01:05:43,380 Oh! 1264 01:05:45,050 --> 01:05:46,170 Oh! 1265 01:05:48,130 --> 01:05:49,430 [Ronnie on voicemail] Uh, hey, this is Ronnie. 1266 01:05:49,550 --> 01:05:50,970 I can't get to the phone right now. 1267 01:05:51,090 --> 01:05:52,510 -Honey... -Leave me a message. 1268 01:05:52,640 --> 01:05:53,760 Honey, if you're gonna talk to the bride, 1269 01:05:53,890 --> 01:05:55,680 you need to go do it now. 1270 01:05:57,020 --> 01:05:59,100 I don't think he's coming. 1271 01:06:01,900 --> 01:06:04,980 [instrumental music] 1272 01:06:07,360 --> 01:06:09,650 Just remember, you're on the left, he's on the right. 1273 01:06:09,780 --> 01:06:11,280 [laughs] 1274 01:06:11,410 --> 01:06:12,910 Come here. Mm. 1275 01:06:13,030 --> 01:06:15,870 I'm not supposed to be touching your dress. 1276 01:06:15,990 --> 01:06:17,500 It's okay. 1277 01:06:19,870 --> 01:06:21,000 Listen. 1278 01:06:22,830 --> 01:06:26,420 Today is a big day for daddy. 1279 01:06:26,550 --> 01:06:28,380 He probably won't show it, but on Monday 1280 01:06:28,510 --> 01:06:31,930 when you guys are back at home and I'm not there, 1281 01:06:32,050 --> 01:06:35,060 he'll probably try to act like he's not sad. 1282 01:06:35,180 --> 01:06:39,100 But he'll be sad, a little sad. 1283 01:06:39,230 --> 01:06:42,440 He only has one little girl at home now, and that's you. 1284 01:06:42,560 --> 01:06:45,190 But I'm not a little girl anymore. 1285 01:06:45,310 --> 01:06:47,230 You are to him. 1286 01:06:47,360 --> 01:06:49,360 Even though you're 13, 1287 01:06:49,490 --> 01:06:51,990 he's still gonna need those hugs from you. 1288 01:06:52,110 --> 01:06:55,450 He needs to know you haven't gotten too cool for him, okay? 1289 01:06:55,580 --> 01:06:57,490 -Mm-hmm. -[both laughing] 1290 01:06:59,160 --> 01:07:02,790 And when you get to be my age 1291 01:07:02,920 --> 01:07:05,250 and you meet a cute boy, 1292 01:07:05,380 --> 01:07:09,550 just like Rick, who loves Jesus, 1293 01:07:09,670 --> 01:07:11,300 and he asks you to marry him, 1294 01:07:11,420 --> 01:07:14,390 you make sure you get daddy's blessing before you run off 1295 01:07:14,510 --> 01:07:16,760 and get married. 1296 01:07:16,890 --> 01:07:18,640 And remember, whoever you marry has to wanna live 1297 01:07:18,770 --> 01:07:20,850 no more than 30 miles from mom and dad. 1298 01:07:20,980 --> 01:07:22,770 -Really? -[knocking on door] 1299 01:07:22,890 --> 01:07:24,480 [laughs] 1300 01:07:24,600 --> 01:07:27,820 I'm kidding. But help your dad. 1301 01:07:28,610 --> 01:07:30,110 [Charlie] Ladies? 1302 01:07:32,740 --> 01:07:33,660 Excuse me, miss. 1303 01:07:33,780 --> 01:07:35,530 Um, have you seen 1304 01:07:35,660 --> 01:07:37,660 my daughter Kate anywhere? 1305 01:07:39,290 --> 01:07:40,910 No, no, no, this can't, this can't be her. 1306 01:07:41,040 --> 01:07:42,750 This is an angel. 1307 01:07:44,120 --> 01:07:45,750 You look gorgeous. 1308 01:07:46,540 --> 01:07:49,000 Thank you, daddy. 1309 01:07:49,130 --> 01:07:50,630 Hey, um, Faith, can you give us a minute? 1310 01:07:50,760 --> 01:07:53,470 Why don't you go see if you can help mommy? 1311 01:08:00,020 --> 01:08:01,470 Are you ready for all this? 1312 01:08:01,600 --> 01:08:02,930 'Cause we can call this thing off right now. 1313 01:08:03,060 --> 01:08:04,940 Dad, dad. 1314 01:08:11,860 --> 01:08:16,160 -So Ronnie, I don't think he's-- -Dad, I know. It's okay. 1315 01:08:16,280 --> 01:08:18,950 We'll just keep praying for them, 1316 01:08:19,080 --> 01:08:20,950 for both of them now. 1317 01:08:21,080 --> 01:08:23,910 -Kate, I just, I wanted to-- -Dad... 1318 01:08:24,040 --> 01:08:27,380 I'm not going to let this steal the joy of this day... 1319 01:08:28,920 --> 01:08:31,670 and you shouldn't either. 1320 01:08:31,800 --> 01:08:33,590 Hey, sorry to interrupt. 1321 01:08:33,720 --> 01:08:36,380 Kate, honey, they need you out front before the guests arrive. 1322 01:08:36,510 --> 01:08:38,590 Tell them I'll be right there. 1323 01:08:41,310 --> 01:08:43,810 No, you go. 1324 01:08:43,930 --> 01:08:46,190 -Are you sure? -Yeah, we can talk later. 1325 01:08:50,900 --> 01:08:52,980 Everything look okay, mom? 1326 01:08:53,820 --> 01:08:55,360 You look perfect, honey. 1327 01:08:55,490 --> 01:08:58,160 -Come on, I'll walk you out. -Okay. 1328 01:08:58,280 --> 01:09:00,830 -Love you. -Love you, too. 1329 01:09:00,950 --> 01:09:02,490 Love you, too. 1330 01:09:03,240 --> 01:09:06,330 [instrumental music] 1331 01:09:35,110 --> 01:09:37,700 [indistinct chatter] 1332 01:09:38,530 --> 01:09:40,490 I love you, daddy. 1333 01:09:41,740 --> 01:09:43,240 It's okay. 1334 01:09:47,750 --> 01:09:49,460 I love you so much, Katie. 1335 01:09:58,050 --> 01:10:00,890 [Charlie] "Katherine Grace Morris, 1336 01:10:01,010 --> 01:10:04,430 now Katherine Grace Johnson, 1337 01:10:04,560 --> 01:10:07,520 is a testament to the saving grace and mercy 1338 01:10:07,640 --> 01:10:10,480 of our Lord Jesus Christ. 1339 01:10:10,600 --> 01:10:14,860 Having received this blessing from the Lord 20 years ago, 1340 01:10:14,980 --> 01:10:16,860 I have faithfully taught her 1341 01:10:16,990 --> 01:10:20,400 to love God with all of her heart, 1342 01:10:20,530 --> 01:10:22,620 soul and strength. 1343 01:10:22,740 --> 01:10:26,830 Katherine has proved herself to honor God and authority, 1344 01:10:26,950 --> 01:10:29,290 to live responsibly, 1345 01:10:29,410 --> 01:10:32,630 to hunger and thirst for righteousness, 1346 01:10:32,750 --> 01:10:34,040 to be a proper helpmeet, 1347 01:10:34,170 --> 01:10:37,590 to seek reconciliation and forgive quickly, 1348 01:10:37,710 --> 01:10:40,970 to obey the Lord and all His holy will. 1349 01:10:42,680 --> 01:10:47,100 I hereby give thanks and praise 1350 01:10:47,220 --> 01:10:49,980 to God for this blessing, 1351 01:10:50,100 --> 01:10:52,600 [voice cracking] and in the presence of our Lord, 1352 01:10:52,730 --> 01:10:56,770 I declare, to God be the glory. 1353 01:10:58,940 --> 01:11:01,240 I also declare that on this day, 1354 01:11:01,360 --> 01:11:03,450 Katherine Grace Johnson..." 1355 01:11:04,530 --> 01:11:06,870 I know. 1356 01:11:06,990 --> 01:11:10,410 "given to me by God as an arrow in my quiver, 1357 01:11:10,540 --> 01:11:11,710 is hereby... 1358 01:11:13,290 --> 01:11:14,630 released... 1359 01:11:16,210 --> 01:11:17,920 into the world... 1360 01:11:19,340 --> 01:11:20,800 now in the hands 1361 01:11:20,920 --> 01:11:23,430 and the direction of her husband, 1362 01:11:23,550 --> 01:11:26,550 on mission for the Lord, by the Lord, 1363 01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:30,390 and of the Lord, to make a difference for Him... 1364 01:11:32,730 --> 01:11:34,600 and our generation. 1365 01:11:34,730 --> 01:11:37,900 May she be the mother of tens of thousands, 1366 01:11:38,020 --> 01:11:40,940 and her legacy continually bless 1367 01:11:41,070 --> 01:11:43,700 future generations 1368 01:11:43,820 --> 01:11:46,070 for the glory of God." 1369 01:11:46,200 --> 01:11:47,330 Amen. 1370 01:11:49,620 --> 01:11:52,710 [instrumental music] 1371 01:12:05,550 --> 01:12:06,970 I love you. 1372 01:12:07,100 --> 01:12:09,220 [voice cracking] I love you, too, daddy. 1373 01:12:10,510 --> 01:12:12,640 -And I got my eye on you. -[laughing] 1374 01:12:15,400 --> 01:12:17,440 [line ringing] 1375 01:12:17,560 --> 01:12:19,610 [automated response] Incoming call. 1376 01:12:22,740 --> 01:12:25,030 [Kate] Ronnie, it's Kate again. 1377 01:12:25,150 --> 01:12:26,780 Just calling to see if you're going to make it 1378 01:12:26,910 --> 01:12:29,990 to mom and dad's 50th next week or not. 1379 01:12:30,120 --> 01:12:31,580 I talked to your son Tim 1380 01:12:31,700 --> 01:12:34,540 and he and Elizabeth are coming. 1381 01:12:34,660 --> 01:12:38,710 Ronnie, listen, you don't want to get a voicemail 1382 01:12:38,830 --> 01:12:40,750 at some point and learn that one of them is gone 1383 01:12:40,880 --> 01:12:44,880 and, and you never... I don't know. 1384 01:12:45,010 --> 01:12:46,880 Just come, okay? 1385 01:12:48,680 --> 01:12:51,760 [instrumental music] 1386 01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:55,730 [Alice] What in the world have you done? 1387 01:12:55,850 --> 01:12:58,190 My internationally acclaimed 1388 01:12:58,310 --> 01:13:00,520 strawberry French toast. 1389 01:13:00,650 --> 01:13:02,520 Made from an old family recipe 1390 01:13:02,650 --> 01:13:05,110 that I dug up online about 20 minutes ago. 1391 01:13:05,240 --> 01:13:08,240 [laughs] I bet the kitchen is a disaster. 1392 01:13:08,360 --> 01:13:10,530 Ah, in a half-hour it will be spotless. 1393 01:13:10,660 --> 01:13:14,700 No, I'll take care of it once I eat this beautiful breakfast. 1394 01:13:14,830 --> 01:13:17,040 Your son would be so proud. 1395 01:13:17,170 --> 01:13:20,250 [laughs] Josh would be surprised that I can cook anything 1396 01:13:20,380 --> 01:13:22,380 for breakfast besides Pop-Tarts. 1397 01:13:22,500 --> 01:13:23,800 Do they still make those things? 1398 01:13:23,920 --> 01:13:25,170 I have no idea. 1399 01:13:25,300 --> 01:13:26,720 Well, anyway, this looks a lot better 1400 01:13:26,840 --> 01:13:29,470 than Pop-Tarts. 1401 01:13:29,590 --> 01:13:31,010 Well, whatever inspired you 1402 01:13:31,140 --> 01:13:33,970 to make me such a special breakfast? 1403 01:13:34,100 --> 01:13:36,020 I have no idea. 1404 01:13:36,140 --> 01:13:39,520 I was just sitting at the kitchen table, reading Joshua 9. 1405 01:13:39,650 --> 01:13:41,690 Oh, is that so? 1406 01:13:47,530 --> 01:13:49,700 Happy 50th... 1407 01:13:49,820 --> 01:13:52,370 to the only woman I've ever loved. 1408 01:13:52,490 --> 01:13:54,790 Oh, my Charlie. 1409 01:13:54,910 --> 01:13:57,500 You're the only man I've ever loved. 1410 01:13:59,330 --> 01:14:01,210 Well, you should go ahead and eat before, uh, 1411 01:14:01,330 --> 01:14:03,130 my world-famous French Toast gets cold. 1412 01:14:03,250 --> 01:14:05,210 [chuckles] Okay. 1413 01:14:05,340 --> 01:14:06,510 Mm. 1414 01:14:09,050 --> 01:14:12,140 [instrumental music] 1415 01:14:16,520 --> 01:14:18,520 That looks great, guys. 1416 01:14:18,640 --> 01:14:20,190 Let's put it out the first 30 or so. 1417 01:14:20,310 --> 01:14:21,560 We'll ice the rest of them, 1418 01:14:21,690 --> 01:14:22,770 pull them out of the fridge as needed. 1419 01:14:22,900 --> 01:14:24,230 -Okay. -All right. 1420 01:14:27,320 --> 01:14:29,320 [girl] Is that her? 1421 01:14:29,450 --> 01:14:30,570 [girl laughs] 1422 01:14:35,240 --> 01:14:37,330 -Hooray, you're here. -Hello. 1423 01:14:37,450 --> 01:14:39,910 Oh, Faith, it is so good to see you. 1424 01:14:40,040 --> 01:14:41,830 -You, too. -Oh. 1425 01:14:41,960 --> 01:14:43,630 And you guys are so grown up! 1426 01:14:43,750 --> 01:14:44,790 Say hello to your Aunt Kate. 1427 01:14:44,920 --> 01:14:46,590 -Hello. -Hi, auntie. 1428 01:14:46,710 --> 01:14:50,430 -Hello, Aunt Kate! -Hello. Aw! 1429 01:14:50,550 --> 01:14:52,340 When we're done, we're gonna put all these in the freezer. 1430 01:14:52,470 --> 01:14:54,050 Dad! 1431 01:14:54,180 --> 01:14:56,720 Hey, it's good to see you. 1432 01:14:56,850 --> 01:14:59,180 -Hi, honey. -Hi, mom. Oh, you look great. 1433 01:14:59,310 --> 01:15:01,140 -Aw, thank you. -Look at all this food. 1434 01:15:01,270 --> 01:15:02,940 Josh, we could feed everybody for a month with all this. 1435 01:15:03,060 --> 01:15:04,520 Well, we're gonna have some leftovers, 1436 01:15:04,650 --> 01:15:06,400 but that's no problem, we'll take care of it. 1437 01:15:06,520 --> 01:15:09,360 I think you may have gone over the budget that I gave you. 1438 01:15:09,490 --> 01:15:12,280 Well, actually, uh, we are far under budget. 1439 01:15:12,410 --> 01:15:14,740 -This is my gift to you guys. -Oh, Josh-- 1440 01:15:14,870 --> 01:15:16,200 -Yeah. -Now, son, I-- 1441 01:15:16,330 --> 01:15:18,240 No, no, listen, how often does a caterer 1442 01:15:18,370 --> 01:15:21,370 get to serve his parents on their 50th anniversary? 1443 01:15:21,500 --> 01:15:22,960 Now, dad, I know you did something special 1444 01:15:23,080 --> 01:15:24,460 for mom, right? 1445 01:15:24,580 --> 01:15:26,750 He brought me breakfast in bed this morning. 1446 01:15:26,880 --> 01:15:31,340 Oh, really? That's impressive. Cornflakes? 1447 01:15:31,470 --> 01:15:34,970 I'll have you know I made strawberry French toast. 1448 01:15:35,090 --> 01:15:37,720 And your mom gave the meal a ten. 1449 01:15:37,850 --> 01:15:39,560 I gave it an A for effort. 1450 01:15:39,680 --> 01:15:41,230 [laughs] 1451 01:15:41,350 --> 01:15:43,100 I really think the reason he cooked for me this morning 1452 01:15:43,230 --> 01:15:46,400 was because he knew he was gonna be accountable to you today. 1453 01:15:46,520 --> 01:15:49,900 -Not so. Not so. -[laughing] 1454 01:15:51,030 --> 01:15:54,780 [instrumental music] 1455 01:15:54,910 --> 01:15:56,200 [automated response] Ronnie's calling. 1456 01:15:56,320 --> 01:15:57,950 -[cell phone chimes] -Ronnie? 1457 01:15:58,080 --> 01:16:00,160 Hey, sis. 1458 01:16:00,290 --> 01:16:02,500 [clears throat] Um, I missed the first flight, 1459 01:16:02,620 --> 01:16:04,830 but got on a follow-on. 1460 01:16:06,420 --> 01:16:08,290 Sorry I missed your calls. 1461 01:16:08,420 --> 01:16:11,300 But you're on your way? 1462 01:16:11,420 --> 01:16:13,170 Yeah, I'll be there. 1463 01:16:14,800 --> 01:16:16,550 -[Kate on phone] Ronnie? -Yeah. 1464 01:16:16,680 --> 01:16:20,390 Kate, I'm sorry that-- 1465 01:16:20,520 --> 01:16:21,970 Don't mind any of that. 1466 01:16:22,100 --> 01:16:24,810 Uh, today it's about mom and dad. 1467 01:16:24,940 --> 01:16:27,190 I haven't even told them you're coming yet. 1468 01:16:27,310 --> 01:16:29,650 [Ronnie] I'll surprise 'em. [Kate on phone] Okay. 1469 01:16:29,770 --> 01:16:31,030 [Kate on phone] I'll see you soon. 1470 01:16:31,150 --> 01:16:32,280 [cell phone chimes] 1471 01:16:34,820 --> 01:16:37,870 [music continues] 1472 01:16:51,800 --> 01:16:53,880 [indistinct chatter] 1473 01:16:55,510 --> 01:16:57,720 [Charlie] It wouldn't have been the same without you. 1474 01:16:57,840 --> 01:16:59,850 [Kenneth] Hey. [Charlie] You guys fly or drive? 1475 01:16:59,970 --> 01:17:01,640 [Kenneth] Well, we ended up flying. 1476 01:17:01,760 --> 01:17:03,470 Flying ain't what it was ten years ago. 1477 01:17:03,600 --> 01:17:04,810 [Charlie] Better or worse? 1478 01:17:04,930 --> 01:17:06,100 Have you seen him? 1479 01:17:06,230 --> 01:17:08,730 Rick's waiting for him at the door. 1480 01:17:08,850 --> 01:17:10,190 We should probably get started soon. 1481 01:17:10,310 --> 01:17:11,570 These kids aren't gonna last all night. 1482 01:17:11,690 --> 01:17:13,820 Yeah, you're probably right, um... 1483 01:17:13,940 --> 01:17:15,280 I'll get daddy to do the blessing. 1484 01:17:15,400 --> 01:17:16,900 Okay, thanks. 1485 01:17:31,790 --> 01:17:33,670 -Cold out there. -Hey, Ronnie? 1486 01:17:33,800 --> 01:17:35,840 I'm Rick. I'm Kate's husband. 1487 01:17:35,960 --> 01:17:37,340 -Guess I missed the dinner? -[laughs] 1488 01:17:37,470 --> 01:17:39,550 Trust me, there's plenty of food left over. 1489 01:17:39,680 --> 01:17:41,100 Everyone's inside and they're just now starting 1490 01:17:41,220 --> 01:17:43,350 to share their tributes, so come on. 1491 01:17:43,470 --> 01:17:46,480 Um, listen, I-I don't wanna interrupt what's going on. 1492 01:17:46,600 --> 01:17:48,230 Is there a place where I can listen in 1493 01:17:48,350 --> 01:17:50,310 without all of a sudden being the center of attention? 1494 01:17:50,440 --> 01:17:53,900 [laughs] I'm way ahead of you. Got the perfect spot picked out. 1495 01:17:56,320 --> 01:18:00,620 So in honor of your amazing 50 years together, 1496 01:18:00,740 --> 01:18:04,950 your children decided to take a minute and let you know 1497 01:18:05,080 --> 01:18:07,330 just how much you mean to us. 1498 01:18:07,460 --> 01:18:09,710 We thought it best to find a way 1499 01:18:09,830 --> 01:18:12,040 to preserve our thoughts for you. 1500 01:18:12,170 --> 01:18:14,340 [Kate] We decided to go in age order 1501 01:18:14,460 --> 01:18:16,800 from the youngest to oldest. 1502 01:18:16,920 --> 01:18:19,720 And this is what Faith wrote. 1503 01:18:22,600 --> 01:18:25,680 [instrumental music] 1504 01:18:28,640 --> 01:18:31,060 Mom and dad, I have had many years 1505 01:18:31,190 --> 01:18:32,850 to think of what my life might have been 1506 01:18:32,980 --> 01:18:36,020 if you two had not made me a part of a forever family. 1507 01:18:36,150 --> 01:18:37,990 I've read about the lives of the children 1508 01:18:38,110 --> 01:18:41,410 who spend their childhood in orphanages. 1509 01:18:41,530 --> 01:18:44,530 Chen and I know firsthand that even the best orphanages 1510 01:18:44,660 --> 01:18:47,950 can never give a child all the things you gave me. 1511 01:18:48,080 --> 01:18:50,830 Your whole life was about giving to our family. 1512 01:18:50,960 --> 01:18:53,710 You gave us so much. 1513 01:18:53,830 --> 01:18:55,290 But today I wanna thank you for the three 1514 01:18:55,420 --> 01:18:58,630 most important things you gave me. 1515 01:18:58,760 --> 01:19:01,180 First, you gave me the gift of security. 1516 01:19:01,300 --> 01:19:04,140 As a child, I knew that whatever happened in my day, 1517 01:19:04,260 --> 01:19:08,720 even if it was a pesky, bratty brother tormenting me, 1518 01:19:08,850 --> 01:19:10,230 I would always have a mom and dad 1519 01:19:10,350 --> 01:19:12,770 that would show me unconditional love. 1520 01:19:12,890 --> 01:19:14,690 I remember the time when I was eight, 1521 01:19:14,810 --> 01:19:16,860 when I packed my little suitcase 1522 01:19:16,980 --> 01:19:19,280 and I told you I was moving back to China. 1523 01:19:19,400 --> 01:19:21,110 I remember you telling me, mom, that you would leave my room 1524 01:19:21,240 --> 01:19:22,820 the way it was, just in case 1525 01:19:22,950 --> 01:19:25,200 things didn't work out for me in China. 1526 01:19:25,320 --> 01:19:27,490 That's all I really wanted to hear. 1527 01:19:27,620 --> 01:19:29,580 I never made it out the door. 1528 01:19:29,700 --> 01:19:31,620 I had a home. 1529 01:19:31,750 --> 01:19:35,580 You gave me a place to belong, and a family to belong to. 1530 01:19:37,040 --> 01:19:38,420 When people who could tell I looked different 1531 01:19:38,550 --> 01:19:40,050 from my siblings would ask 1532 01:19:40,170 --> 01:19:41,720 how long I'd been in the family, 1533 01:19:41,840 --> 01:19:43,260 I remember you telling them, dad, 1534 01:19:43,380 --> 01:19:46,550 that God had determined I would be a Morris 1535 01:19:46,680 --> 01:19:48,640 long before any of us were born. 1536 01:19:48,760 --> 01:19:52,270 Even when I struggled with my identity as a teenager, 1537 01:19:52,390 --> 01:19:55,020 you kept reminding me of what is true, 1538 01:19:55,150 --> 01:19:59,860 that my identity isn't found in the color of my skin 1539 01:19:59,980 --> 01:20:02,280 or the city where my birth parents lived. 1540 01:20:02,400 --> 01:20:05,160 You taught me that my true identity 1541 01:20:05,280 --> 01:20:07,830 is as a child of God. 1542 01:20:07,950 --> 01:20:10,200 And that's the third gift you gave me. 1543 01:20:12,120 --> 01:20:14,160 [music continues] 1544 01:20:16,750 --> 01:20:20,340 [voice breaking] You gave me the gift of a living faith. 1545 01:20:23,970 --> 01:20:27,180 [sniffles] You made sure we were all in church. 1546 01:20:27,300 --> 01:20:29,560 You were, dad, you were faithful to read 1547 01:20:29,680 --> 01:20:31,310 the Bible to us. 1548 01:20:31,430 --> 01:20:33,770 [sniffles] 1549 01:20:33,890 --> 01:20:36,100 But the loudest sermon I heard growing up was the one 1550 01:20:36,230 --> 01:20:40,150 both of you preached by the way you walked. 1551 01:20:40,270 --> 01:20:42,940 I learned what it looks like to believe in God 1552 01:20:43,070 --> 01:20:44,400 and walk with Him every day 1553 01:20:44,530 --> 01:20:46,860 by watching how you walked with Him. 1554 01:20:50,620 --> 01:20:53,750 I know my siblings were stunned when they found out 1555 01:20:53,870 --> 01:20:57,790 that their adopted sister was actually your favorite child. 1556 01:20:57,920 --> 01:21:00,130 [all laughing] 1557 01:21:00,250 --> 01:21:02,550 But I wasn't surprised at all. 1558 01:21:02,670 --> 01:21:04,510 I knew it was true. 1559 01:21:04,630 --> 01:21:08,090 So thank you for all the gifts you've given me. 1560 01:21:08,220 --> 01:21:11,390 Chen and I pray that heritage you've given us 1561 01:21:11,510 --> 01:21:14,520 will become a mighty legacy that will live for generations, 1562 01:21:14,640 --> 01:21:17,770 through our children and our children's children. 1563 01:21:17,900 --> 01:21:19,480 I love you, mom and dad. 1564 01:21:19,610 --> 01:21:22,020 Your daughter forever, Faith. 1565 01:21:22,150 --> 01:21:25,240 [instrumental music] 1566 01:21:47,470 --> 01:21:51,430 Well, I originally was going to title mine 1567 01:21:51,550 --> 01:21:54,720 "A Tribute From Your Favorite Child." 1568 01:21:54,850 --> 01:21:59,650 But, uh, I didn't wanna crush Faith with the truth, 1569 01:21:59,770 --> 01:22:03,320 so I ended up calling it 1570 01:22:03,440 --> 01:22:07,360 "Here's To My Imperfect But Faithful Parents, 1571 01:22:07,490 --> 01:22:10,450 From Your Very Imperfect Son." 1572 01:22:10,570 --> 01:22:12,660 "In the Bible, the apostle Paul said, 1573 01:22:12,780 --> 01:22:15,620 "I am who I am by the grace of God." 1574 01:22:15,740 --> 01:22:18,040 And I can say the same, except, I have a second part 1575 01:22:18,160 --> 01:22:20,000 to that phrase. 1576 01:22:20,120 --> 01:22:22,460 I am who I am by the grace of God 1577 01:22:22,580 --> 01:22:26,340 and because of the faithfulness of my mom and dad. 1578 01:22:26,460 --> 01:22:29,840 My parents learned early that their third-born was stubborn 1579 01:22:29,970 --> 01:22:31,590 and strong-willed. 1580 01:22:31,720 --> 01:22:34,140 Dad, I remember you used to love telling people 1581 01:22:34,260 --> 01:22:36,560 that when I was a child, I drew a circle around myself 1582 01:22:36,680 --> 01:22:38,770 and called myself the Lord of the Ring. 1583 01:22:38,890 --> 01:22:40,940 But we both knew that there was more truth there 1584 01:22:41,060 --> 01:22:43,190 than either of us wanted to admit. 1585 01:22:45,150 --> 01:22:47,230 But I think the biggest lesson I learned from you as you tried 1586 01:22:47,360 --> 01:22:50,150 to redirect all my rambunctious impulses 1587 01:22:50,280 --> 01:22:52,160 was that in the end, 1588 01:22:52,280 --> 01:22:55,030 people matter more than things. 1589 01:22:55,160 --> 01:22:59,710 Relationships matter more than always having to be right. 1590 01:23:01,330 --> 01:23:03,330 And love matters most. 1591 01:23:05,130 --> 01:23:07,630 And you both taught me that by how you faithfully loved 1592 01:23:07,760 --> 01:23:10,760 your sometimes hard-to-love son. 1593 01:23:13,180 --> 01:23:16,680 So in the end, that will be your legacy, 1594 01:23:16,810 --> 01:23:18,470 and there could be no greater legacy 1595 01:23:18,600 --> 01:23:20,640 than a legacy of faithful love. 1596 01:23:21,770 --> 01:23:24,270 I love you two very much. 1597 01:23:24,400 --> 01:23:25,860 Your son, Josh." 1598 01:23:28,610 --> 01:23:31,700 [instrumental music] 1599 01:23:35,280 --> 01:23:38,370 -I'm proud of you, son. -I know, dad. Thank you. 1600 01:23:41,750 --> 01:23:44,210 [Alice] You make it sound harder than it was. 1601 01:23:44,330 --> 01:23:46,170 Your memory's failing you, mom. 1602 01:23:46,290 --> 01:23:48,800 [laughs] 1603 01:23:48,920 --> 01:23:51,880 So I decided not to include in my tribute about being 1604 01:23:52,010 --> 01:23:55,010 the favorite child, because, you know, that was our secret. 1605 01:23:55,140 --> 01:23:57,810 And I know how to keep a secret. 1606 01:23:57,930 --> 01:24:00,350 So, Faith and Josh, I am sure 1607 01:24:00,470 --> 01:24:03,180 you are really the favorite children. 1608 01:24:05,400 --> 01:24:09,730 My tribute is called "My Two Moms And Dads." 1609 01:24:11,320 --> 01:24:15,570 "When I was 15, I got a new mom and dad. 1610 01:24:15,700 --> 01:24:18,530 My, my old mom and dad, um, 1611 01:24:18,660 --> 01:24:21,790 they were loving and kind, caring and gentle. 1612 01:24:23,580 --> 01:24:25,750 My new mom and dad, um, 1613 01:24:25,870 --> 01:24:28,460 well, they were also loving and kind, 1614 01:24:28,590 --> 01:24:31,840 but I didn't realize it 1615 01:24:31,960 --> 01:24:34,170 at the time. 1616 01:24:34,300 --> 01:24:36,640 I, in fact, didn't care 1617 01:24:36,760 --> 01:24:40,430 for my, uh, new parents all that much. 1618 01:24:40,560 --> 01:24:43,980 They, uh, put new boundaries in place. 1619 01:24:44,100 --> 01:24:48,400 They said no to things that they normally said yes to. 1620 01:24:49,650 --> 01:24:51,570 But there was something 1621 01:24:51,690 --> 01:24:55,070 about this new set of parents. 1622 01:24:55,200 --> 01:24:57,870 They, uh, didn't rattle easy. 1623 01:24:59,370 --> 01:25:01,620 They had an inner peace. 1624 01:25:02,950 --> 01:25:05,000 They had new priorities. 1625 01:25:06,460 --> 01:25:08,830 And they calmly and quietly 1626 01:25:08,960 --> 01:25:11,460 went about reshaping our family. 1627 01:25:11,590 --> 01:25:14,630 And in that process, they showed me what it means 1628 01:25:14,760 --> 01:25:18,840 to live my life in Jesus, 1629 01:25:18,970 --> 01:25:22,930 instead of trying to find a place for Jesus in my life. 1630 01:25:24,310 --> 01:25:28,060 Mom and dad, I can't express to you 1631 01:25:28,190 --> 01:25:31,770 how grateful I am for all the fun times, 1632 01:25:31,900 --> 01:25:35,030 the love, memories... 1633 01:25:36,400 --> 01:25:39,740 and most of all, 1634 01:25:39,870 --> 01:25:42,330 the model that you showed me... 1635 01:25:43,910 --> 01:25:48,250 how to walk humbly with your God. 1636 01:25:52,290 --> 01:25:54,630 I love you. 1637 01:25:54,760 --> 01:25:56,510 Your daughter, Kate." 1638 01:26:01,260 --> 01:26:02,890 [Alice] That was beautiful. 1639 01:26:03,010 --> 01:26:04,140 [sniffles] 1640 01:26:05,930 --> 01:26:08,980 [music continues] 1641 01:26:20,660 --> 01:26:22,200 Well, before we cut the cake, there's something 1642 01:26:22,320 --> 01:26:23,660 I wanna say about it. 1643 01:26:23,780 --> 01:26:26,040 Uh, we wanted to do something very special 1644 01:26:26,160 --> 01:26:28,250 for mom and dad, uh... 1645 01:26:41,970 --> 01:26:44,930 [Ronnie] Josh, I realize I'm... 1646 01:26:45,970 --> 01:26:49,350 kinda late... here tonight. 1647 01:26:53,560 --> 01:26:56,730 Like about, uh, 30-some-odd years late. 1648 01:26:59,650 --> 01:27:00,990 And... 1649 01:27:02,490 --> 01:27:05,830 Kate said something, uh, about tributes 1650 01:27:05,950 --> 01:27:08,040 when I talked to her last. 1651 01:27:10,580 --> 01:27:13,830 I mean, I guess I probably didn't listen 1652 01:27:13,960 --> 01:27:15,790 all that carefully to her. 1653 01:27:18,710 --> 01:27:21,680 That's been an issue, uh, of mine over the years, 1654 01:27:21,800 --> 01:27:25,470 not listening to what other people were telling me. 1655 01:27:27,390 --> 01:27:30,890 Oh, but I don't wanna take the spotlight off 1656 01:27:31,020 --> 01:27:32,390 where it belongs... 1657 01:27:33,810 --> 01:27:35,770 on mom and mad. 1658 01:27:37,730 --> 01:27:41,650 Um... I think I remember... 1659 01:27:43,450 --> 01:27:45,280 reading once... 1660 01:27:47,620 --> 01:27:49,490 "Hear, my son... 1661 01:27:51,120 --> 01:27:53,290 your father's instructions... 1662 01:27:59,630 --> 01:28:01,420 and forsake not... 1663 01:28:04,130 --> 01:28:06,550 your mother's teaching." 1664 01:28:06,680 --> 01:28:09,760 [instrumental music] 1665 01:28:12,730 --> 01:28:15,100 Back then, I didn't listen, uh, 1666 01:28:15,230 --> 01:28:16,810 too well to much of anything, 1667 01:28:16,940 --> 01:28:20,150 other than my own perceived intelligence 1668 01:28:20,280 --> 01:28:24,360 and... upperclassmen, or my instructors, 1669 01:28:24,490 --> 01:28:28,700 whose approval I was craving at the time. 1670 01:28:28,830 --> 01:28:29,950 [clears throat] 1671 01:28:35,000 --> 01:28:38,170 Um... I am glad 1672 01:28:38,290 --> 01:28:40,420 that my own son... 1673 01:28:42,130 --> 01:28:45,550 Tim... and his wife Elizabeth 1674 01:28:45,680 --> 01:28:48,350 are able to be here today. 1675 01:28:48,470 --> 01:28:51,390 I guess it's about time that they met you all... 1676 01:28:53,100 --> 01:28:54,230 and you all met them, 1677 01:28:54,350 --> 01:28:57,350 uh, especially since Tim has just 1678 01:28:57,480 --> 01:28:59,560 taken a new job at Fort Mill. 1679 01:29:03,480 --> 01:29:04,950 And, son, I'm... 1680 01:29:07,610 --> 01:29:08,740 glad... 1681 01:29:12,540 --> 01:29:13,870 that you're gonna finally get a chance 1682 01:29:14,000 --> 01:29:15,870 to meet your grandmother and grandfather 1683 01:29:16,000 --> 01:29:19,080 and get to... know them. 1684 01:29:20,340 --> 01:29:21,840 [voice breaking] I should have... 1685 01:29:23,170 --> 01:29:24,760 years ago. 1686 01:29:25,380 --> 01:29:26,930 [sniffles] 1687 01:29:27,050 --> 01:29:30,100 [music continues] 1688 01:29:38,850 --> 01:29:41,320 [sobbing] 1689 01:30:02,340 --> 01:30:05,420 [indistinct chatter] 1690 01:30:06,420 --> 01:30:07,920 Night, guys. 1691 01:30:08,970 --> 01:30:10,470 Mom, what are you doing? 1692 01:30:10,590 --> 01:30:12,260 I have someone coming on Monday to do this. 1693 01:30:12,390 --> 01:30:13,550 -It's your anniversary. -Well... 1694 01:30:13,680 --> 01:30:15,020 I'm just rinsing a few dishes. 1695 01:30:15,140 --> 01:30:17,060 You know me, I can't leave a dirty kitchen. 1696 01:30:17,180 --> 01:30:19,640 [Josh sighs] 1697 01:30:19,770 --> 01:30:22,810 Okay, I know I'm not gonna win an argument with you. 1698 01:30:22,940 --> 01:30:24,070 Mm-hmm. 1699 01:30:26,070 --> 01:30:29,110 -Are you okay? -Mm-hmm. 1700 01:30:29,240 --> 01:30:31,950 Ronnie's gonna stay at the house. 1701 01:30:32,070 --> 01:30:33,910 This is a good thing? 1702 01:30:34,030 --> 01:30:37,250 Yeah, it's good. 1703 01:30:37,370 --> 01:30:39,000 It's really good. 1704 01:30:39,660 --> 01:30:40,790 Okay. 1705 01:30:42,170 --> 01:30:44,210 Well, listen, if you're gonna do dishes, then, uh, 1706 01:30:44,340 --> 01:30:45,300 you need to do 'em right. 1707 01:30:45,420 --> 01:30:47,590 -Oh. -[laughing] 1708 01:31:03,900 --> 01:31:04,860 We're about to head home. 1709 01:31:04,980 --> 01:31:06,190 I just wanted to say goodbye, 1710 01:31:06,320 --> 01:31:08,150 and how thankful we both are 1711 01:31:08,280 --> 01:31:10,030 to finally get to meet you and grandpa. 1712 01:31:10,150 --> 01:31:13,660 Well, you just don't know. Oh. 1713 01:31:14,910 --> 01:31:16,370 You two have no idea 1714 01:31:16,490 --> 01:31:18,200 how thrilled your grandma and I are 1715 01:31:18,330 --> 01:31:20,120 that you're gonna be moving just right down the road 1716 01:31:20,250 --> 01:31:22,210 in Fort Mill. 1717 01:31:22,330 --> 01:31:24,170 We're gonna have to have you over. 1718 01:31:24,290 --> 01:31:25,840 -Mm-hmm. -Better yet... 1719 01:31:25,960 --> 01:31:28,210 We need to give you two a night off 1720 01:31:28,340 --> 01:31:29,380 and get to know your kids better. 1721 01:31:29,510 --> 01:31:30,880 -Yes. -Wow. 1722 01:31:31,010 --> 01:31:34,430 That's very kind of you. Thank you. 1723 01:31:34,550 --> 01:31:38,140 Truth is, I have so many questions I'd love to ask you. 1724 01:31:38,270 --> 01:31:41,350 Sometimes I just don't know what to do with the little ones. 1725 01:31:41,480 --> 01:31:44,020 Oh, honey, I understand. 1726 01:31:44,150 --> 01:31:47,110 When Ronnie was born, I was so scared. 1727 01:31:47,230 --> 01:31:49,280 I didn't have a clue what I was doing. 1728 01:31:49,400 --> 01:31:52,150 -Bye-bye. Say "bye." -[baby babbling] 1729 01:31:52,280 --> 01:31:54,240 Bye-bye. Bye-bye. 1730 01:31:55,030 --> 01:31:57,120 [instrumental music] 1731 01:31:58,990 --> 01:32:00,410 So they took the baby Jesus 1732 01:32:00,540 --> 01:32:02,500 and they wrapped him in swaddling clothes 1733 01:32:02,620 --> 01:32:06,040 and they laid him in a manger. 1734 01:32:07,250 --> 01:32:09,590 [laughs] What are you doing? 1735 01:32:09,710 --> 01:32:13,010 Tell them the story. [chuckles] 1736 01:32:13,130 --> 01:32:15,680 Now, there were shepherds abiding in the field, 1737 01:32:15,800 --> 01:32:19,350 keeping watch over their flocks by night. 1738 01:32:19,470 --> 01:32:22,890 And suddenly, the angel of the Lord came upon them, 1739 01:32:23,020 --> 01:32:25,980 and the glory of the Lord shone round about them, 1740 01:32:26,100 --> 01:32:29,440 and they were so afraid. 1741 01:32:29,570 --> 01:32:32,690 The angel said unto them, "Fear not, for behold, 1742 01:32:32,820 --> 01:32:34,990 I bring you good tidings of great joy." 1743 01:32:35,110 --> 01:32:38,200 [instrumental music] 1744 01:33:12,980 --> 01:33:17,660 ♪ To the ends of the earth they will take this light ♪ 1745 01:33:17,780 --> 01:33:22,870 ♪ Like a torch that's flying through the darkest night ♪ 1746 01:33:22,990 --> 01:33:24,870 ♪ Lift 'em up pull back this bow ♪ 1747 01:33:25,000 --> 01:33:29,500 ♪ Say a prayer and let 'em go like arrows ♪ 1748 01:33:31,670 --> 01:33:34,590 ♪ Send 'em out like arrows ♪ 1749 01:33:36,590 --> 01:33:41,720 ♪ Oh it's the greatest hardest thing we'll ever do ♪ 1750 01:33:41,850 --> 01:33:46,600 ♪ To raise 'em on a straight and narrow truth ♪ 1751 01:33:46,730 --> 01:33:51,400 ♪ Send them out beyond their wildest dreams ♪ 1752 01:33:51,520 --> 01:33:55,780 ♪ Sons and daughters are the legacy ♪ 1753 01:33:55,900 --> 01:33:59,570 ♪ Pray on through this crazy life ♪ 1754 01:33:59,700 --> 01:34:03,330 ♪ And watch 'em fly straight to ♪ 1755 01:34:03,450 --> 01:34:08,210 ♪ The target that we're aiming for it's you ♪ 1756 01:34:08,330 --> 01:34:13,500 ♪ The target that we're aiming for is you ♪ 1757 01:34:15,260 --> 01:34:20,050 ♪ To the ends of the earth they will take this light ♪ 1758 01:34:20,180 --> 01:34:25,180 ♪ Like a torch that's flying through the darkest night ♪ 1759 01:34:25,310 --> 01:34:27,390 ♪ Lift 'em up pull back this bow ♪ 1760 01:34:27,520 --> 01:34:31,850 ♪ Say a prayer and let 'em go like arrows ♪ 1761 01:34:33,940 --> 01:34:36,570 ♪ Send 'em out like arrows ♪ 1762 01:34:39,030 --> 01:34:43,580 ♪ Oh it's the most important battle we will fight ♪ 1763 01:34:43,700 --> 01:34:45,990 ♪ We've got to give 'em more than words ♪ 1764 01:34:46,120 --> 01:34:48,370 ♪ Let's give our lives ♪ 1765 01:34:48,500 --> 01:34:50,960 ♪ Oh it takes patience it takes courage ♪ 1766 01:34:51,080 --> 01:34:53,250 ♪ It takes heart ♪ 1767 01:34:53,380 --> 01:34:58,090 ♪ We may be broken but it's not too late to start ♪ 1768 01:34:58,210 --> 01:35:02,010 ♪ Pray on through this crazy life ♪ 1769 01:35:02,140 --> 01:35:05,800 ♪ And watch 'em fly straight to ♪ 1770 01:35:05,930 --> 01:35:10,690 ♪ The target that we're aiming for it's you ♪ 1771 01:35:10,810 --> 01:35:15,980 ♪ The target that we're aiming for is you ♪ 1772 01:35:17,690 --> 01:35:22,410 ♪ To the ends of the earth they will take this light ♪ 1773 01:35:22,530 --> 01:35:27,540 ♪ Like a torch that's flying through the darkest night ♪ 1774 01:35:27,660 --> 01:35:29,790 ♪ Lift 'em up pull back the bow ♪ 1775 01:35:29,910 --> 01:35:34,330 ♪ Say a prayer and let 'em go like arrows ♪ 1776 01:35:36,290 --> 01:35:39,340 ♪ Send 'em out like arrows ♪ 1777 01:35:41,300 --> 01:35:45,840 ♪ I have decided to follow Jesus ♪ 1778 01:35:45,970 --> 01:35:50,770 ♪ No turning back no turning back ♪ 1779 01:35:50,890 --> 01:35:51,930 ♪ I have decided ♪ 1780 01:35:52,060 --> 01:35:53,140 ♪ We have decided ♪ 1781 01:35:53,270 --> 01:35:54,350 ♪ To follow Jesus ♪ 1782 01:35:54,480 --> 01:35:55,610 ♪ To follow Jesus ♪ 1783 01:35:55,730 --> 01:35:56,820 ♪ No turning back ♪ 1784 01:35:56,940 --> 01:35:57,980 ♪ No turning back ♪ 1785 01:35:58,110 --> 01:35:59,190 ♪ No turning back ♪ 1786 01:35:59,320 --> 01:36:03,200 ♪ No turning back ♪ 1787 01:36:03,320 --> 01:36:08,030 ♪ To the ends of the earth they will take this light ♪ 1788 01:36:08,160 --> 01:36:13,120 ♪ Like a torch that's flying through the darkest night ♪ 1789 01:36:13,250 --> 01:36:15,420 ♪ Lift 'em up pull back this bow ♪ 1790 01:36:15,540 --> 01:36:20,090 ♪ Say a prayer and let 'em go like arrows ♪ 1791 01:36:21,880 --> 01:36:24,930 ♪ Send 'em out like arrows ♪ 1792 01:36:27,550 --> 01:36:29,720 ♪ Like arrows ♪ 1793 01:36:31,520 --> 01:36:34,600 ♪ Send 'em out like arrows ♪♪ 1794 01:36:39,860 --> 01:36:42,940 [instrumental music] 1795 01:37:01,920 --> 01:37:06,220 ♪ I come from where life ♪ 1796 01:37:06,340 --> 01:37:08,550 ♪ Has been all night ♪ 1797 01:37:12,600 --> 01:37:16,560 ♪ It's way too familiar ♪ 1798 01:37:16,690 --> 01:37:20,860 ♪ My present fly high ♪ 1799 01:37:23,690 --> 01:37:28,700 ♪ Lift me up or throw me down ♪ 1800 01:37:28,820 --> 01:37:34,040 ♪ Into the new or hold my ground ♪ 1801 01:37:34,160 --> 01:37:39,380 ♪ The wind blows a holy sound ♪ 1802 01:37:39,500 --> 01:37:43,630 ♪ Past and pain they lay me down ♪ 1803 01:37:44,840 --> 01:37:49,970 ♪ Past and pain they lay me down ♪ 1804 01:38:03,440 --> 01:38:08,110 ♪ All I can see are words true to me ♪ 1805 01:38:08,240 --> 01:38:10,780 ♪ Being cast into the sea ♪ 1806 01:38:10,910 --> 01:38:13,410 ♪ That I can't seem to reach ♪ 1807 01:38:13,530 --> 01:38:19,460 ♪ But I dive down and pray and return empty-handed ♪ 1808 01:38:19,580 --> 01:38:22,000 ♪ Leavin' my heart feeling ♪ 1809 01:38:22,130 --> 01:38:26,170 ♪ Slowly stranded ♪ 1810 01:38:26,300 --> 01:38:31,340 ♪ Lift me up or throw me down ♪ 1811 01:38:31,470 --> 01:38:36,770 ♪ Into the new or hold my ground ♪ 1812 01:38:36,890 --> 01:38:42,060 ♪ The wind blows a holy sound ♪ 1813 01:38:42,190 --> 01:38:47,320 ♪ Past and pain they lay me down ♪ 1814 01:38:47,440 --> 01:38:51,610 ♪ Past and pain they lay me down ♪♪ 1815 01:38:53,160 --> 01:38:56,200 [music continues]